tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9093618626294028032024-03-05T15:37:17.240-06:00Ramblings of a Confused MuseThis blog contains a great many things, mostly UPG and personal lessons learned. There are practical lessons and discussions on intangible things as well. You can find us on Facebook @the.confused.9River Mourningstarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07487930376498733365noreply@blogger.comBlogger117125truetag:blogger.com,1999:blog-909361862629402803.post-48806391946203888852020-10-24T01:22:00.001-05:002020-10-27T07:14:38.127-05:00Midnight Musings<p> It is just after midnight. I'm awake and sipping coffee. I got somewhere around 3.5 or 4 hours of sleep. I figure that I'll be up most of the night, coffee or not. My mind has been on the gods as of late and a feeling of emptiness that pervades the core of my soul. This is not depression, my medications are (mostly) working. This goes deeper. There is an emptiness in my soul. Something has shifted. I can't quite name it. Maybe I have forgotten the feeling when a soul part is about to return. Maybe my doom scrolling and watching the world finally come to its breaking point in real-time, no less, has caused me to lose a soul part. Maybe it is pandemic anxiety meeting my regular anxiety and them teaming up. I'm not sure.</p><p>So, I turn my face to my gods. I turn my thoughts to their workings, to their worship. I think of Athene, my newest goddess. I think of Hekate and Mars, who have been there for more years than I can say. Looking back, Athene has been there, as well. I just didn't realize or, maybe, acknowledge it.</p><p>She stood watch over me as a child. She watched me grow from a teen into a strong-willed woman. She guided me through an ultimately nasty marriage and divorce. She walked the path beside me as I navigated this strange wasteland we call life, often without any support system beyond those friends inside of my computer. </p><p>My father bought a statue in the 1960s. He was in the Navy and traveling the Mediterranean, exploring exotic places on the African coast (bought my mother's engagement ring there before he knew her), and finding adventure on the shores of the far east. He bought an ivory statue. That statue is of a woman with a spear, shield, and helmet. She is standing proud, the warrior she is upon a small pedestal. Underneath, her name MINERVA. </p><p>Now, I am generally a hard pantheist. A god is a god and is not the other culture equivalent. The other culture, similar god, is a god in its own right. I go back and forth with myself regarding the Greco-Roman deities. Their stories are twined together so tightly, many tales look the same in both cultures. The Greek tales seem to be softer, with less violence, but I digress.</p><p>Minerva stood in my home from the time just before I was born and still stands, ironically, atop my father's gun cabinet. You see, my father is one of those people who are pagan and don't know it. My mother, as well, though she would be horrified to hear such a blasphemous utterance. All my life, dad has kept Minerva close to him. Always in his room, his private sanctuary. Always placed somewhere high above us: a bookcase, his gun cabinet, mom's armoire. A place of honor so that she may watch and keep us.</p><p>These two goddesses are similar. Maybe the same? I'll not make any declarations here except to say that they possess the same type of energy. They weave similar tapestries upon life, influence life in similar manners. So, I believe it is a safe bet to call Athene a family deity.</p><p>She came to me for the first time in 2010 or 2011 in the form of an Avon perfume bottle, the noxious liquid still inside. She held a golden laurel crown in her right hand. Later, I came to find out that most of those perfume bottles lost their gold leaf crowns, so mine was quite special. Most recently, I came upon another perfume bottle, one that had lost its gold leaf. With it, an amphora depicting the lady with Heracles, in that famous and beloved tale.</p><p>She was, again, making herself known. I recognized this very blatant sign. I bought both pieces and they form part of an altar to Athene. I also set up an offering bowl. I give her trinkets, money, stones, whatever feels like it needs to be there. While these offerings fill a spot in my heart, they do nothing to touch the emptiness. I know she is pleased with them, yet I feel nothing. Like I am going through the motions of life and worship. </p><p>So, I turn my face, not away from my gods, but I turn it to my shamanist training. I trust they will guide me through the harrowing adventure that is to come. I have a soul part to find and it is not as easy as wandering into the 'cave of souls' and plucking the shining little bit of diamond dust from the ground or wall or ceiling. I trust that my gods will guide me beyond the well of souls and give me something to place into the void I feel. </p><p>I have one more trusted guide on this journey. I don't want to make it, but I know that I will be all the better for it.</p>River Mourningstarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07487930376498733365noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-909361862629402803.post-4482872328959174232020-09-07T08:50:00.000-05:002020-09-07T08:50:20.752-05:00When You're a Bad Witch™ but You Want to be a Good Witch™<p> I haven't written in a while and someone I hold in high esteem gave me the idea to examine what a 'bad witch' looks like. A Bad Witch™ being someone who does not practice their spirituality as they perceive it should be in their own head. </p><p>Let's start, first, with one of the foundations of most practices: meditation. New witches are told, "To be successful learn to meditate." Then, they are never told how to actually do this practice. More importantly, it is never explained to them that there are different types of meditation. This sets them up, immediately, for failure. We usually think of zen meditation, the perfect stillness of body and mind, when we think of meditation or we think of transcendental meditation where one sits still and silent and repeats mantras. Yoga is an excellent form of active meditation. Running or walking is as well.</p><p>Active meditations give the body something to do so that the mind can focus on breathing or mantras or even just chanting. How easy is it, while walking, to just repeat 'step, step, step, step'? That becomes your chant. This time could also be used to say positive affirmations or to list good qualities about yourself. As a pagan, chanting the elements or picking one element and chanting its correspondences. Even if you only know 2 or 3, chanting it over and over again: "Air, Spring, Yellow, Sylphs". This helps to reinforce your relationship with that element and it gives your mind something to focus on. If there's a slip-up, "Oh! a dandelion!" kind of stray thought, incorporate it into your chant (because dandelions and bees are also associated with the Air elemental).</p><p>One of my own favorite elemental meditations is showering or doing dishes when I am angry or in my feelings. I take those thoughts and give them to my water elemental helpers. I get rid of the tsunami of emotions and they get a little extra energy boost. Other active meditation techniques are reading and, this will probably make some people rage, playing video games. If it relaxes you, it can be a form of meditation. If it gives you anxiety or other types of not-so-great feelings, it is probably something that needs tended to while doing Shadow Work.</p><p>Let's go back to thinking one is a Bad Witch™. The meditation example above isn't the only reason people like to think they are failing in their spirituality. Sometimes it is about observing the esbats and 'not doing enough ritual', other times, it is about 'not working with a group' or 'not serving one's deity' appropriately. My personal favorite because it is something that I do, letting one's spiritual space get cluttered or, another cornerstone of the Craft, not journaling or writing things down. </p><p>Journaling is a must when doing dreamwork or journey work. Journaling is a must when creating and working spells. Journaling is where I fall into the Bad Witch™ category. It is where all of my considerable willpower and discipline get chucked out of the window. Journaling gives me rage. A kind of indescribable rage that goes beyond white-hot. Why? I'm reasonably sure that it has to do with forcing myself to do my Daily Pages when I was going through The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron. Those daily pages ignited in me something that has never cooled when it comes to journaling. This is probably a thing I need to focus on this year while doing my Shadow Work.</p><p>Being a Good Witch™ goes beyond observance, practice, or action. Yes, those things count, however, sitting and brushing or petting your dog or cat can be an exercise in grounding without some elaborate gesture. Cleansing your space (which is what I am avoiding right now XD) can be its own ritual. Planting a garden, harvesting fruit, or sitting on the bank of a pond or lake can put one in touch with the local spirits. Feeding the bees or ants at the end of the summer by buying an extra melon while they are cheap and putting it in your back yard is a way to honor your land spirits or even the Fae. Bird feeders in the winter is another way. Simply remembering that you are a spiritual being having a human experience when you're having a bad day allows one to pause for just a moment in the midst of whatever perceived personal failure one might be having.</p><p>There is no Good Witch™ or Bad Witch™ when it comes to the personal walk. There is a time for planting in life. There is a time for growth in life. There is a time for the harvest. There is a time for things to lie fallow. Finding out what season you are in can make all of the difference in your life's perception. Trying to grow in the fallow season is futile. Planting at the harvest will cause the vine to wither before it fruits.</p><p>Thanks for the idea, Lady. </p><p>Blessings,</p><p>River</p>River Mourningstarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07487930376498733365noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-909361862629402803.post-48281003512925699112020-07-03T05:01:00.004-05:002020-07-03T05:22:45.201-05:00Lending a Name, Taking a Name: A Cautionary Tale of the Use of Powerful Words<div>The name River was a gift. It was a gift from one of my many, many narcissists, but a gift nonetheless. I decided to keep that name as a reminder of what the river does and my own capabilities.</div><div><br /></div><div>The river changes landscapes and cuts wide swathes through rock. Through gentle, yet constant movement, it grinds stones against each other until they are nothing more than sand. The river smooths the ragged edges from all forms of rock and wood. The river sweeps away any detritus without caring if the trash is considered precious or not. If it is, then it should not be in the path of the swirling, oft murky depths.</div><div><br /></div><div>When people are given magical names, it is something that has some kind of meaning to them. My own name was given to me without any kind of input or ceremony. I was told, "This is your coven name."</div><div><br /></div><div>In response, I nodded and replied, "Okay," in some fashion or another. There was no naming ceremony, no interesting tale of how it happened. The entire coven was summoned to the covenstead one day and told (in essence), "We are restructuring your experience with the coven to make it more magical and as such those of you who don't have magical names will be given one today and those who do, we will begin using them immediately any time we are here. There will be no mundaneries brought to the covenstead unless it is for counseling or we are simply gathering for revelry. Class is for classwork. Ritual is for ritual. We will discuss individual plans for each of you over the next few days."</div><div><br /></div><div>I had been practicing with the coven for a little less than a year at this point and none of the promises that had been made by the leadership had been kept. After my first season with the group, I figured out that there was little to no chance of those promises being kept (things like 'legitimacy' with a Gardenarian lineage, because there was none and there was no one left alive to confirm or deny this connection). This blog isn't to get into my time with the coven, nor is it to expose the leaders for the frauds they are, but those things matter because they illustrate what goes on when a naming happens and is accepted by the named person on the psychic level.<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEilw6OlM2eY8lixBsWgIcMXbDQ-bSkLLfc6DjW-kR46mEmue5FN35nEov93E4jsQ7nzBcum8B2XgpSrQ0bfPiEs7dW0TOOxoGhhODCzOpIkHNWbtMBxo-cyND5gchMQZz57DvY0xylrXgAm/s4652/riverrock.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="3102" data-original-width="4652" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEilw6OlM2eY8lixBsWgIcMXbDQ-bSkLLfc6DjW-kR46mEmue5FN35nEov93E4jsQ7nzBcum8B2XgpSrQ0bfPiEs7dW0TOOxoGhhODCzOpIkHNWbtMBxo-cyND5gchMQZz57DvY0xylrXgAm/s320/riverrock.jpg" width="320" /></a></div></div><div><br /></div><div>I was given the name River and told that I can be like a force of nature. I accepted it for various reasons, the biggest one being that I grew up in a river town and lived most of my childhood on that river. I didn't just accept it. River is who I am. It is one of the greatest gifts that I have ever been given. However, I accepted this name with an understanding that most people do not take into consideration the <i>entire</i> concept of a noun when they use it as a proper name.</div><div><br /></div><div>The river isn't just a huge amount of kinetic energy naturally following the path of least resistance. It likes the path of least resistance, but it will also <i>create</i> that path and destroy everything in its way to creation. It can be dammed up, but if it isn't given a release, it will just run over the top and still destroy everything in its path. It can be dammed up and used strategically to power everything around it. We want to coax the river to work with us, not force it to bend to our will. Rivers are so slow to revolt that humanity believes that they can be tamed. And so it is with people.</div><div><br /></div><div>I spent time with that group, dammed up, unable to make my own path, or any real headway due to all of these perceived duties. I was, almost immediately, tested for loyalty and how much I would go out of my way to 'help' even as I was being told how the other members of the group were unreliable or unavailable. That was an immediate red flag for me because that mentality was something that was stressed in another group I was in. As a leader, you shouldn't be talking shit about the people most loyal to you having for having full-time jobs, hobbies (even if it may be alcoholism), and a life outside of your influence.<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjXiudvCnXwmy-_IJ-mJdKY_sbeaXnTTDXcw4yUG20CwYM-jnr80VgK3Ot37Sc3TikFoqRyb6g_sZOtpV6SKNVkTlIdgUSiBO5qPAATjAz_MEqvp3_N64UyZ2tcl2acilC44AIPXIcRTmy3/s1280/rushingriv.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="720" data-original-width="1280" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjXiudvCnXwmy-_IJ-mJdKY_sbeaXnTTDXcw4yUG20CwYM-jnr80VgK3Ot37Sc3TikFoqRyb6g_sZOtpV6SKNVkTlIdgUSiBO5qPAATjAz_MEqvp3_N64UyZ2tcl2acilC44AIPXIcRTmy3/s320/rushingriv.jpg" width="320" /></a></div></div><div><br /></div><div>So, after the first three months, I began looking at the red flags. They were everywhere. Certain members were used as 'spies' and quite proud of their unassuming nature. Others were told they were the muscle, but really, they were kept around for other reasons. Other members were kept around for no reason at all other than they had been there for several years. I took all of this in, watched the dynamic. It was so dysfunctional that it was a running gag within the coven. "We are a dysfunctional family," I heard many times. (Then heal thyself, Witch! I thought to myself nearly every time.)</div><div><br /></div><div>By the time I was named, the murky waters were swirling with information that people outside of the group wouldn't believe. The proverbial dam was nearly full to bursting. You can't. Stop. The river.</div><div><br /></div><div>The river flows how and where it wishes. It does so in its own way and in its own time. Rivers are slow and that means rivers are patient. That slow, patient often lazy looking surface masks a dangerous force lurking just underneath. The undertow will drag the unsuspecting down without thought or care. Why would anyone give that name to someone they only think they know? Feels a bit like hubris to me. Why would anyone take that name? From where I sit, faith doesn't move mountains, rivers do. Just ask the Grand Canyon. So, why <i>wouldn't</i> everyone embrace the same feral patience and ability to plan long term that the lifeblood of our planet uses? Why <i>wouldn't</i> everyone embrace that level of flexibility?</div><div><br /></div><div>Ultimately, I left the group. It served only to stagnate me. Some years later, I gave out the information I'd learned. It was, of course, met with disbelief by those on the outside. What no one ever knew about (and likely won't for a while, if ever) was the support that I got privately. For every person who condemned me without question for my action (and I know who they are), I had another privately contact me with their own experience that paralleled mine. These same people said, "Hey, thanks for being a voice for those of us who can't speak out right now. Here is my story. . ."</div><div><br /></div><div>When naming someone, whether it be yourself or another, remember that all words have shadow meanings. The good and creative aspects are always what we want to embrace, but with creation comes the inevitable destruction. Therefore, those shadowy aspects must also be considered, especially if you know a person is not averse to embracing their Shadow Self or if you know that person needs a lesson in owning their Shadow. Sometimes these destructive aspects are aimed inwardly to destroy one's own barriers and personal illusions, but sometimes, these aspects are aimed outward, toward destroying the illusions others have built.</div><div><br /></div><div>Blessings,</div><div>River</div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div>River Mourningstarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07487930376498733365noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-909361862629402803.post-33998085727968917912020-06-13T08:05:00.000-05:002020-06-13T08:05:29.781-05:00Toxic Positivity Culture- Redux<div><i>I wrote this blog originally in 2018. It has been on my mind a lot lately, so I thought I would expand on it some.</i></div><div><br /></div><div>~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~</div><div><br /></div>I see a lot of posts on social media where a person is having a bad day and they apologize for being in a bad mood. I see these posts where people have a chronic illness and apologize for having a bad day. What do they have to apologize for? From where I sit, nothing. In today's world, there is this idea that one must be positive no matter what. There is this idea that one must smile through the tears or joyfully endure the illness, abuse, or other bad thing happening. <i>Why?</i> Is it to show how strong one is? Is it to show how much one can take before breaking? Is it simply this weird positivity culture that we live in? The idea that there is so much bad in the world, so each individual must be the good?<div><br /></div><div>Why would anyone apologize for their righteous anger? You are allowed to be angry at the state of the world. YOu are allowed to be angry at the state of your mental health. You are allowed to be exhausted by the negativity that you see and experience in this time and place. You are allowed to be all of these things unapologetically. Do you drink to cope? Smoke week? Exercise too much or too little? That's okay, too. Everyone has to cope and sometimes we choose to cope in ways that we know aren't the best for us.<br /><br />The idea that bad things only happen to "vibrationally low" people is also an insane notion, and while we are discussing that, we'll as the idea that all negativity "lowers vibration." This type of gaslighting permeates open-minded society. Again, <i>why?</i></div><div><i><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjDGh-oV6tRF5wmQNfnDruUf4Blit__oI1D-8r4v1Crdu7q5dmw8lSusX_JylP13A0Az6XKR2T9sPQocwKh21qomXXpWwYuM0QAgd6yVN1wmXxlcBh4gugJNiM0N6AJ62KmD1QQP1ZBlHla/s720/gaslight.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="709" data-original-width="720" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjDGh-oV6tRF5wmQNfnDruUf4Blit__oI1D-8r4v1Crdu7q5dmw8lSusX_JylP13A0Az6XKR2T9sPQocwKh21qomXXpWwYuM0QAgd6yVN1wmXxlcBh4gugJNiM0N6AJ62KmD1QQP1ZBlHla/s320/gaslight.jpg" width="320" /></a></div></i>This meme in an exceptionally good example of pseudospiritual gaslighting. I do believe that people project their own issues onto others; I do not believe that one should carry the burden of others issues because they believe that person is a mirror of something deep down that needs acceptance.</div><div><br /></div><div>You are not a mirror for your narcissist, rapist, child molestor, or abuser. Those people abusing you is about <i>them</i> projecting their will or deviancy upon you in a harmful and debilitating way. There is nothing for you to mirror.</div><div><br /></div><div>The idea that we are mirrors is probably one of the reasons <i>every</i> new pagan is somehow an empath. First, anyone can think they are an empath if they are taking on the burden of 'fixing' their abusers. Second, toxic positivity teaches us that we must somehow <i>fight</i> the negative in the world. It teaches us that it is our job to fight the bad vibrations, lift up the people who appear to need it. It teaches us to embrace our shadow but only in a 'good' way. Shadow work is dark, messy, and only comes to the good once we master it. Then, we get to go deeper and deeper. It is a never-ending process.</div><div><br /></div><div>Another part of toxic positivity culture is when we walk into gatherings and someone says, "HAPPY MONDAY!" (Or whatever day of the week.) Why is it happy? What if my grandmother just died and I'm only just barely holding it together? Is this a declaratrion that I need to act happy? Is this some kind of affirmation? What if I am at a job that I hate and I <i>know</i> the person is fake as fuck? Is this a challenge or are they faking it? Whatever the answer to the questions, the idea that one must always be joyous in all things is ridiculous.</div><div><br /></div><div>Now, before I get ripped I would like to point out that, yes, affirmations work. Yes, cognitive behavioral therapy works. These are not the things I'm referring to. I'm referring, specifically, to the damage we do to ourselves within toxic positivity culture. The idea that one must apologize for feeling something other than positive. Apologies that begin, "I'm sorry, and I always try to stay positive, but..." But nothing! You are allowed to feel this emotion. You are allowed to spend time with it. You are allowed to release it.<br /><br />Apologizing for feeling an emotion can do more damage. You wouldn't allow someone to tell you to be positive if you were diabetic and were having high sugars, would you? No. In the same way, you wouldn't let them tell you all of the things you should be doing to get those sugars down because you already know. Why would you allow someone to dismiss your feelings in the same way? Why would you want someone to insist that you pretend to be happy so you can 'fake it until you make it'? You wouldn't. None of us do.<br /><br />Be aware of your thoughts. Listen to your body. Do not use your feeling down to lash out or blame other people. Allow yourself to feel whatever emotion you feel. There's no reason to beat yourself up. Find something that comforts you when you feel this way, music, poetry, art, a nice tea. Allow yourself to enjoy this thing and repeat an affirmation. With some training, your thoughts on not being 'allowed' to feel that way change. They change to a type of self-comfort.<br /><br />I write these things because positivity can change the brain. This is known. However, the idea that just saying vaguely positive things changes the brain, especially if they are backward compliments, defeats the idea. Not believing the words also defeats the purpose. We have to stop gaslighting ourselves into being positive. If there is a health issue, we must address it. If there is an emotional issue, we must address it. Not addressing these things from all sides, spiritual, physical, and emotional, leaves us only partly healed.<br /><br />Listen to the words to speak to yourself. Are you healing or are you sorry you feel bad? Are you doing the best you can or are you a failure? If you wouldn't let your most hated enemy say these words to you, then why do you say them to yourself? Don't let someone else's idea of positivity be your yardstick. Don't let someone's fake positivity make you feel like you are somehow damaged or broken in some way.<br /><br />Blessed be,<br />River</div>River Mourningstarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07487930376498733365noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-909361862629402803.post-21039696083203086422020-01-01T08:34:00.001-06:002020-01-03T11:20:28.451-06:00Letters Not Sent- When You Can't See the Forest<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
I'm beginning the new decade by writing this letter. It has been some months in coming. You see, when people have secrets, they do not love it when one tells them. Even more, they do not love it when one tells those secrets to people who are actually listening. These people send in those who would do <i>anything</i> for them, including making excuses for the abuses they mete out within the community.<br />
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I begin this letter by saying that I am a great many things in this world, but a liar is not one of them. I have been called such, behind my back of course. Then, those who have never found a reason to distrust me rarely have anything to hide.<br />
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My Dearest Little One,<br />
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Yes, I'll be referring to you as such, Little One. It is the most appropriate descriptor of your mental and emotional space. You see, your "savior" thought your mental and emotional abuse by your mother was something to be exploited. Behind your back, she openly laughed at your immaturity and how you are at nearly 30, still a 15-year-old child. Your savior openly laughed at your alcoholism and called you an alcoholic more than once. Behind your back, of course. You were <i>rarely</i> included in our Friday (and sometimes, Wednesday) night hangouts at the covenstead because, according to your beloved savior, nobody in the coven could stand you. You don't even know how much you missed out on because no one would tell you. It was a <i>relief</i> for them that you weren't there. I was summoned to the covenstead damn near every week for something. Did you know that? Sometimes it was a chat. Sometimes it was to gossip about that church just down the road. That coven drinks. A <i>lot.</i> Other times it was just to hang out, but there was always an ulterior motive.<br />
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Lots of times, it was because you had some drama in your life that week and <i>nobody</i> gave a shit, so they called me in to get some kind of perspective. I was the new person, so I had some empathy left for a struggling young woman just looking to find her place in this world. I can't tell you how many times I was summoned to class early or called over on Friday night to discuss <i>your</i> life, Little One. I had to listen to your savior openly laugh at your misunderstanding of BDSM. She admitted to me that she didn't even bother to correct you because she knew it wouldn't do any good.<br />
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Little One, even your elevation was my idea. (Or did the rug get pulled out from under you at the last second?) I was so exhausted with the two-faced bullshit in the coven by the time I left, one of the last conversations I had with your savior was about being bored with her just taking us in circles. Remember that discussion you and I had? What I didn't tell you was that I also asked her, point-blank, why <i>you</i> hadn't been elevated yet. After 10 years, <i>she</i> should have made the effort to push you down the road you had been <i>begging</i> to take. She came up with multiple excuses, of course. You don't finish what you start. Your mental health. You needed a priest. You know, I looked at her and said something to the effect of, "Until you let her start down that path, she is never going to leave. She will either find out how difficult it is and quit or she will keep going and you will <i>have</i> to elevate her. If she is such a pain in the ass and nobody likes her in the group, why are you holding her back, anyway? Push her out, hive her off and be done. Problem solved."<br />
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Not a month later, you were staring down 2 years until elevation and your own group, Little One. Barring, of course, that you could navigate her power trips. You <i>always</i> missed the power trips. She knew that, due to your abuse, you would put up with anything if it was said nicely and with enough 'empathy.' She knew that as long as she approached you will logic instead of screaming and throwing things, then she would be just fine. She also knew that she wouldn't even have to put that much effort into you and <i>she laughed about it</i>. She <i>laughed</i> at how easy you were to manipulate because you didn't know what true kindness was.<br />
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She bragged about how easy it was to keep you in line. She bragged about how she <i>knew</i> you needed more therapy but couldn't or wouldn't convince you to keep going. (I suspect she <i>wouldn't</i> because that would mean that eventually you would have the tools in your toolbox to know what she was doing to you and she didn't want to lose her power over you.) Everyone but you and your beloved knew how much she manipulated you. <br />
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They <i>all</i> knew you were simply <i>begging</i> for motherly approval and that even her half-approval would be enough for you. She knew that she could get you to do anything she wanted if she told you that you did a good job, but her favorite thing to do to you was 'critique' your writing, rituals, and anything you presented her. She was exceptionally mean <i>to you</i> and would plan a <i>lot</i> of that stuff out and rehearse it with the others. I wouldn't participate in that foolishness. That's <i>meanness </i>and you didn't deserve it. (Oh, yes, we had discussions about your ritual writing, too, and how she thought it was garbage. She bragged about how much fun they had ripping it apart <i>and then</i> going back over it and ripping apart the stuff that they thought was okay. They even made a point to make sure and leave a few of the original bits so you wouldn't be quite so upset.) I was <i>all</i> an elaborate put on that they took pleasure in. They <i>knew</i> that you would take the 'help' with a straight face and be upset because you couldn't understand what you had done wrong.<br />
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How many times did she look at you and say, "Well, you're wrong," and couldn't tell you how or why you were wrong. Did you know she used to do that to me, as well? Oh, she tried it exactly 3 times. The first time she did it, I asked, "How?" She stumbled. She stuttered. She couldn't tell me <i>how</i> I was wrong. She changed the subject. The second time, I asked her, "Why?" Again, she stuttered and she stumbled. She changed the subject. The third time, I pressed her. "How? Why? Which part?" She only responded with, "Well, you're wrong," and she did that thing where she flares her nostrils indignantly and acts like it is supposed to be some kind of power move. I asked again, "Which part is wrong? If I am wrong about something, I want to be corrected. I'm not beyond being taught." She was <i>angry</i> at being questioned. "You're just wrong and you won't understand why," she responded. To that, I laughed. (Because we all know that I don't have any sense and will absolutely laugh at someone trying to manipulate me.) I laughed at her to her face and said, "I'm wrong because you say so? We both know that you'll have to do better than that! Again, if I'm <i>actually</i> wrong, I'm open to being educated as to why not 'because I say so'."<br />
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You understand, Little One, that that is a form of gaslighting, right? Relying on your manipulator as your only source of 'reliable' information and being told you're wrong without explanation or education is how she kept you <i>all</i> in line. She also quite enjoyed letting you all come to your own conclusions about myths (remember the PowerPoint by your raptor friend?) and then make utter fools of yourselves when you put in all of that time and energy and missed the whole point you were trying to make. That was another conversation she and I had privately. She thought that shit was <i>hysterical</i>. I was summoned to the covenstead after that class and listened to the 2nds and 3rds <i>howling</i> about how ridiculous and just plain wrong it was. It was just another manipulation. When I asked why he wasn't corrected or guided in the appropriate direction, everybody <i>laughed</i>. She shrugged her shoulders and changed the subject.<br />
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Now, I suspect (though it was never actually spoken) that she 'saved' you from those others 'using you up', so that she could convince you that you owe her something, maybe a life debt or something foolish like that, for when her own life starts to wane. (As it has been for a while now.) Has she asked you to open any gates or use any of those mysterious keys the two of you were always going on about? If she hasn't yet, don't worry, she will and she will do it in such a way that she will make you think it is your idea or some kind of duty. It isn't. Remember that. No one can lay claim to your energies or talents and no one can tell you that you owe them. This isn't some fantasy novel where you are some kind of hero.<br />
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Mostly, I write this letter to you because I don't want you to turn into her. You need to know that she isn't a nice person. She isn't a good person. What you see behind closed doors is the real her and she thinks you are a stupid little girl. If a person has to cultivate a professional demeanor to interact with people outside of their own coven, then that person is a liar and a con. If a person has to be someone else to be heard, then they have their own issues that need to be addressed by a mental health professional. More than all of that, if a person does all of this creating of a public personality and people <i>still don't believe it</i>, then the world is not wrong. You are. <br />
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Little One, it is a very rare instance that you are wrong about something. You have a keen mind. Yet, you allow her to do the same thing to you that those who would have used you up did. You allow her to use you up in a different way. You allow her to hold you back in a way that keeps you from seeing the forest for the trees.<br />
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While I don't respect that, I do have some modicum of respect for you as a young woman just looking to find her way in this world. I hope you have gotten away from her and I hope that you can someday see her for who she is, not who she wants you to see her as.<br />
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Just because <i>you</i> don't see her abuse for what it is doesn't mean that she isn't an A+ abuser.<br />
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May the blinders fall off in this new decade and may you find your way,<br />
River<br />
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River Mourningstarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07487930376498733365noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-909361862629402803.post-5866005157731639252019-07-27T09:48:00.000-05:002019-07-28T08:17:07.315-05:00Lest We Forget: On the Sabbats and Celebrations<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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I was reading on social media the other day a rant about the Sabbats by a very upset pagan. In essence, the post was about this person's home state trying to change the observance of Halloween from October 31 to the last Saturday in October. This person was upset for a couple of reasons. First, they believe that October 31 is Samhain. Second, they believe that the state was trying to legislate away their 'most sacred of holidays.'<br />
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Regarding actual dates versus observed dates, we do this with more than one bank holiday already in the United States. Columbus Day springs to mind. The actual date for Columbus Day is October 12, however, it is observed on the second Monday of October. This is what that particular state wants to do, set an observed date versus observing the tradition on the actual date in regards to Halloween to make sure that everyone can enjoy the festivities.<br />
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That said, Halloween and Samhain are not the same dates. While Halloween certainly has many of the same observances, Samhain marks the end of summer. Much like the summer solstice, Samhain is not on the same date every year. October 31 became the observed date for this celebration in addition to the secular holiday of Halloween. (Since there are plenty of sources and documentaries on Halloween and its origins, I will not go into specifics in this writing.)<br />
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The Sabbats are our solar holidays, used to mark the passage of time in the life of the Sun God. These dates are astrological. If you know anything about the heavens, then you know that everything is fluid, bendable, and everchanging. We have come to accept the observed dates as our sabbats and, it appears, that the knowledge of when those actual dates are, is beginning to fall out of common knowledge. Before we dig into what the actual dates are, let's look at how we came upon having the observed dates that we do have.<br />
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The practice of conversion can be seen throughout all of Europe once touched by the Roman Empire, even before its conversion to Christianity. It can still be seen most obviously in the assimilation of Classical mythology where the Greek and Roman mythological deities became almost interchangeable in their tales, despite their glaring differences. <br />
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As with so much within our practices, our observed dates go back to the spread of the Catholic Church. It is well known that as the Church spread through Europe that churches were built on pagan holy sites to assimilate the masses. In that era, church leaders and their missionaries were the educated ones, for the most part. It did not take a lot of observing to know when the big feast days were among the peasants and where they would congregate to celebrate. Again, in an effort convert the heathens, the Church took up the holidays of the locals.<br />
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Can you imagine, as an uneducated local person, these strangers coming in, building a building over your most sacred sites and then using your own observances to convert you? This is, basically, what happened and how these observances were preserved. Even now, except for only a few dates, our own pagan calendar mirrors the Catholic one very closely. Many of our observances are also mirrored. Notice the dates below:<br />
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These dates were picked to be the observed dates. Again, if we notice the mirror between their festivities and ours, you will notice that some of our observances are mirrored in practice. At Candlemas, the Church blesses all of their candles for the year. At Imbolc, the days are noticeably longer from the solstice, and we welcome back the growing sun by with a fire celebration usually centered around candles.<br />
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Lammas is, literally, Loaf Mass. The first grains are harvested and baked into bread. Lughnasadh is based on the funeral feast Lugh of the Long Arm had in honor of his foster mother Tailtiu. This feast was thrown in Tailtu's honor after she died clearing the plains of Ireland for agriculture. I believe we all probably know that Christmas and Yule also quite closely mirror each other in tradition, even though Jesus was likely born in the spring.<br />
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Our own holidays fall based on the sun and zodiac because these were planting and harvest holidays for an agrarian society.<br />
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<li>Imbolc- Sun goes 15° Aquarius</li>
<li>Ostara- Sun enters Aries</li>
<li>Beltane- Sun goes 15° Taurus</li>
<li>Litha- Sun enters Cancer</li>
<li>Lughnasadh- Sun goes 15° Leo</li>
<li>Mabon- Sun enters Libra</li>
<li>Samhain- Sun goes 15° Scorpio</li>
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These dates are in no way static. It is one reason why there are standing stones all over Europe. Think about the most famous of the European henges, Stonehenge. It is well known that it marks the winter solstice. In Ireland, the Baltray standing stones mark the same date, and in Scotland, the Maeshowe stones do, as well. Therefore, we know that our ancestors had the means to mark the solstices and equinoxes. It stands to reason that they very likely marked the cross-quarter days as well, even if we can not read them in the henges today. In that way, our ancestors knew when to start planning their big feasts and rituals.<br />
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While we all practice in the manner that we see fit these days, it never hurts to make sure that one knows the origins of the days celebrated. Knowing the traditions gives us the information we need to celebrate accurately but to also celebrate as we so choose. In the era of fake news, it is up to us to keep the records as accurately and thoroughly as possible, even if our observances do not reflect the entirety of that knowledge.<br />
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Blessings,<br />
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River Mourningstarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07487930376498733365noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-909361862629402803.post-77156008338301950882019-06-23T10:51:00.002-05:002019-06-23T10:51:49.637-05:00Letters Not Sent: The Long Goodbye<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<i>It's been a while since I have done one of these. I have come to understand that when someone is on my mind, it's probably because I am on theirs. It's never an accident.</i><br />
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<i><br /></i> It's been months since our last contact and I gave you nothing. I saw you in public that day, fawning over all of these people from your past. It's nice to think about all of the forgiveness you were given. It's nice to think about all of the forgiveness you begged from these people who only have to see you for show, right? I was different, though. Wasn't I? You begged for my good will. You begged for my forgiveness. Why didn't I joyfully give you what you so desperately desire? The short answer is because your whims and desires no longer affect me.<br />
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The long answer is that I don't owe you forgiveness despite your demand for it. I do not owe you forgiveness for acting in such a manner as I told you that you would act. I warned you that your actions have consequences and that once people you were mad at were out of the way, then you would find some inane reason to be mad at me. I warned you against the childish stomping of your feet and angry fists on hips demands that you made. I warned you that would keep being your response until you alienated everyone in your life. I warned you that pettiness would be your cloak for some time to come. I warned you that your lack of self-respect and addiction would ultimately be your undoing. I warned you that your need to control everything and everyone around you would come at a cost.<br />
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Well, that cost is a lack of respect and trust. You want so badly to be trusted, but you aren't trustworthy. You want so badly for people to see the person you wish you were instead of the person that you are. You can't seem to understand that when you open your mouth, your whims and desires spew forth veiled in frustration and vanity, trying to lead people to believe that you know more and are more than you actually are. Your words gush forth in a waterfall of victimhood. You don't understand how your words and actions affect other people and you don't want to know. You expect them to give you forgiveness because you do not believe that you have done anything wrong and that they are unreasonable. You expect others to simply allow you to create havoc wherever you go and to simply allow it to happen because you refuse to open your eyes to your own destructive behaviors. <br />
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The truth is, though, I kind of miss you. Yes, you were an addict. Yes, you were demanding. Yes, you were blind to all of the people you hurt because of your selfishness. All that said, you lived pretty authentically, despite the fact that you thought you were a good person. You <i>wanted</i> to be a good person as long as that meant you could have what you wanted without acknowledging who you hurt in the process.<br />
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Even now, your apologies consist of 'I was addicted and out of control' and 'I was such a slave to my substance of choice that I didn't know what I was doing'. We both know that isn't true. Your substance of choice simply gave you an excuse to say and do whatever you wanted. Now, you do what you want without that excuse and people still dislike you. Just like when you were an addict, they tolerate you because you can be useful. You make them money. You take up space when they need quiet time. You are their place holder when they have better things to do.<br />
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Love, you are still the same person. You are simply more in control. You still act within the very nature that made you an addict. It still makes you angry that I do not acknowledge your 'sorrow' and your 'regret'. Your program has done a great many wonders in your life. It has saved you from plenty of messy situations. What it hasn't done is saved you from yourself. Oh yes, I still hear from people about you. I hear that you haven't changed. These people don't know that I know you until after they tell me about the way you treat them. These people don't know that 'sober' you is just like 'addicted' you, but less fun and creative.<br />
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I want you to know that I never hated you. I still don't. I don't even dislike you, honestly. I'm not angry at what happened between us. I never have been. I was angry at your pettiness (and you <i>know</i> what I'm talking about. Twice!) but I never expected anything less, addicted or sober. You should also know that <i>twice</i> your pettiness didn't work and I suspect, even backfired on you, because we both know that I have a will of iron and you do not.<br /><br />I want you to understand that, of all the people you know, I am the one who saw you clearly. I am the one who saw your <i>you-</i>ness and despite it wanted to be your friend. You need to understand that I did not accept your weird 12 step program bid for forgiveness because, despite what was between us, that forgiveness is not for me to grant. I have never held any ill will toward you for being who you are. Asking me to forgive you for who you are is not something I can do. <i>You</i> must find that place within yourself that acknowledges you aren't the person you want people to think you are and you must make peace with that. I always saw it and I was always okay with it<i>. </i>It was <i>that</i> person I warned you about knowing that you wouldn't listen.<br />
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One day, I hope to discover you have seen this and read it. I hope you understand it is not a judgment against your person. I have no doubt that you will one day do great things and get the recognition you deserve for being who you are. I hope life treats you more kindly than you treat most people. I hope that you find more people who see you clearly in times to come.<br />
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Blessings,<br />
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River Mourningstarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07487930376498733365noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-909361862629402803.post-51565867569974163772019-05-26T10:14:00.001-05:002019-05-26T10:14:29.101-05:00On Karma<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
There is this idea about karma that has crept up in the last half a decade or so in the pagan community. The idea is that karma is some kind of sentient being that preys on people, no matter their actions, simply because of a series of unfortunate events. Karma <i>does not</i> work like that. Our actions (or inaction) <i>does</i> incur karmic debt, but first, let's take a look at <i>how</i> karma works.<br />
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At its most simple, karma is cause and effect. If one does "a", then "b" is the consequence. Spiritually speaking, we see people every day who do sketchy things and don't seem to ever get caught. There's a reason for this, a couple, actually. First, as people, we want to trust that everyone is going to do the right thing. Everyone is not. Second, those people who are not willing to do the right thing always seek out the first group.<br />
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When that happens, those sketchy people manipulate those around them into getting what they want and by making each person feel a little paranoid and foolish, so as to not alert anyone else. This behavior can go on for years, literally. This behavior can also rack up a <i>lot</i> of karmic debt. If karma is cause and effect, then sometimes it takes a <i>lot</i> of cause to finally create the effect. The above is a prime example.<br />
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Years of half-truths and a pattern of people coming and going in their lives is a big indicator. Eventually, a person comes along who notices the pattern. It is always the same: small inconveniences or needs that suddenly lead to larger tragedies, which always lead to "life-changing emergencies" that, months later, were just really some kind of terrible scare and everything is actually fine. Rinse and repeat.<br />
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Well, that pattern happens over and over again until someone notices it. Usually, I am that person. (Go figure, right?) When I was a wee baby witch, I despised being that person. Nobody wants to be the one to ring the warning bell. Nobody wants to be the one to point out all of the little inconsistencies. No one wants to be the one rocking the boat. That boat rocking usually turns into some pretty negative stuff, but eventually, those karmic scales come into balance. Often times, that rebalancing is subtle. Publically, no one 'believes' you, but they all start backing away and privately, some will even support you.<br />
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Then, there are those times when the karmic scales tip completely over and everything spills out onto the ground in the most glorious manner. It is a good feeling to watch this happen, honestly. No, I never enjoy the bad fortune of another, however, sometimes the 'karmic whip' leaves one quite battered.<br />
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We, as witches, <i>are </i>the instruments of karma. (Whether or not we want to be.) Modern practices would lead us to believe that the Wiccan Rede and the Three-Fold Law prohibit us from being those karmic instruments, but I would have to disagree. Here's why:<br />
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Karma isn't some kind of punishment or some kind of sentient creature following you around waiting for you to make a mistake. Karma is more like a cumulative aspect of cause and effect. One dishonest act may not be noticed and, indeed, it may embolden you to do another, but eventually, the dishonesty catches up and the scales balance out. Sometimes it is a minor inconvenience. Other times it is a major ordeal.</div>
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River Mourningstarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07487930376498733365noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-909361862629402803.post-54012838387205670692019-05-10T14:05:00.000-05:002019-05-10T14:05:44.914-05:00Witchcraft on a Budget<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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The reality most of us live is one of frugality, much like our witch grandmothers. We are conditioned through advertising that we should have a whole different set of tools for Craft than for living. This is a load of bull shit in most cases. For those of us practicing low magic, the tools do not matter as much as they do for those practicing high magic. People wanting us to buy expensive and unnecessary things want us to believe that it matters.</div>
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Things like salt. It is not ‘more spiritual’ to use pink salt or some rare and expensive imported salt. Cheap iodized (or not!) table salt will do. I tend to use my specialty salts and salt mixes in my kitchen craft. Again, this isn’t because it’s ‘more spiritual’. It’s just because that’s what I cook with. If I am using salt to smudge and throwing it on the floor before I vacuum, I am definitely using cheap table salt. It gathers dust and negativity as good or better than large rock salt.<o:p></o:p></div>
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You can also use cinnamon or cinnamon bark, Italian seasoning (which I will get to later), garlic salt or garlic powder, turmeric, and pumpkin pie or apple pie spice straight from your kitchen cupboard. Olive oil, vinegar, and cornstarch also need not be bought separately. <o:p></o:p></div>
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Basil: Protection, cleansing, love, luck, fidelity, wealth<o:p></o:p></div>
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Rosemary: Protection, purification, love, clarity, lust, healing, cleansing<o:p></o:p></div>
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Just opening up your spaghetti seasoning, you could use it to anoint a candle for wealth, fortune, love, health, and protection.<o:p></o:p></div>
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So, a sprinkling of that generic cajun seasoning on my doorstep is excellent at giving protection and banishing bad juju? Looks like it.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Sage: Wisdom, immortality, protection and to alleviate sorrow<o:p></o:p></div>
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(I didn’t see the need to relist the other herbs already listed.) So, from the looks of it, generic poultry seasoning can be used for health and protection as well.<o:p></o:p></div>
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I use these three mixes because most people who cook have them in their kitchen and they are easily attainable and relatively cheap. They can be bought from a large chain store for less than $1. You know, the one with the blue sign and yellow star thingy in its logo.<o:p></o:p></div>
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It should be noted that you can also use these in your recipes with the same effects. Another thing witches on a budget can do is take their used eggshells and crush them and make cascarilla powder with them. There’s no need to buy it if you use it.<o:p></o:p></div>
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As well, places like the Dollar Tree sell smooth river rocks by the bag. Those can be used to create earth elemental altars or they can be used to create divination sets, like runes. <o:p></o:p></div>
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Witching on a budget is much easier than expected. A fire pit can substitute a cauldron for fire magic. A crock pot can substitute a cauldron for kitchen craft. A coffee grinder can be a substitute for a mortar and pestle. The idea that we must have a whole other set of everything dedicated to Craft is unnecessary. It’s also more fun to work with what you have to see what you can do with it.<o:p></o:p></div>
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River Mourningstarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07487930376498733365noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-909361862629402803.post-77868341386866393942018-09-03T10:09:00.000-05:002019-11-09T07:13:16.145-06:00Toxic Positivity Culture<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
I see a lot of posts on social media where a person is having a bad day and they apologize for being in a bad mood. I see these posts where people have a chronic illness and apologize for having a bad day. What do they have to apologize for? From where I sit, nothing. In today's world, there is this idea that one must be positive no matter what. There is this idea that one must smile through the tears or joyfully endure the illness, abuse, or other bad thing happening. <i>Why?</i> Is it to show how strong one is? Is it to show how much one can take before breaking? Is it simply this weird positivity culture that we live in? The idea that there is so much bad in the world, so each individual must be the good?<br />
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The idea that bad things only happen to "vibrationally low" people is insane. As well as the idea that all negativity "lowers vibration." This type of gaslighting permeates open-minded society. Again, <i>why?</i><br />
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Now, before I get ripped I would like to point out that, yes, affirmations work. Yes, cognitive behavioral therapy works. These are not the things I'm referring to. I'm referring, specifically, to the damage we do to ourselves within toxic positivity culture. The idea that one must apologize for feeling something other than positive. Apologies that begin, "I'm sorry, and I always try to stay positive, but..." But nothing! You are allowed to feel this emotion. You are allowed to spend time with it. You are allowed to release it.<br />
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Apologizing for feeling an emotion can do more damage. Would you allow someone, when you're feeling down, to say, "You should try being positive; it works for me." No, you wouldn't. I wouldn't, either, because that's a form of gaslighting.<br />
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Be aware of your thoughts. Listen to your body. Do not use your feeling down to lash out or blame other people. Allow yourself to feel whatever emotion you feel. There's no reason to beat yourself up. Find something that comforts you when you feel this way, music, poetry, art, a nice tea. Allow yourself to enjoy this thing and repeat an affirmation. With some training, your thoughts on not being 'allowed' to feel that way change. They change to a type of self-comfort.<br />
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I write these things because positivity can change the brain. This is known. However, the idea that just saying vaguely positive things changes the brain, especially if they are backward compliments, defeats the idea. Not believing the words also defeats the purpose. We have to stop gaslighting ourselves into being positive. If there is a health issue, we must address it. If there is an emotional issue, we must address it. Not addressing these things from all sides, spiritual, physical, and emotional, leaves us only partly healed.<br />
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Listen to the words to speak to yourself. Are you healing or are you sorry you feel bad? Are you doing the best you can or are you a failure? If you wouldn't let your most hated enemy say these words to you, then why do you say them to yourself? Don't let someone else's idea of positivity be your yardstick.<br />
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Blessed be,<br />
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River Mourningstarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07487930376498733365noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-909361862629402803.post-57025827569376550292018-03-18T09:49:00.000-05:002018-03-18T09:49:31.515-05:00Love and Light: Veiled Abuse and Bullying in Paganism<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
We all know someone who is eternally happy and never has a bad day, even if it is through gritted teeth. These people are always espousing 'love and light' in their practice and encouraging everyone around them to turn their face toward the sun so that the darkness falls behind them. . . Or something of the sort. While some of these people have genuinely made peace with their inner demons, most others have not. We have all been conditioned that 'love and light' is good and is an expression of a supreme good while those who embrace their own darkness and, therefore, humanity should be watched.<br />
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The reality that I have seen over and over is that those espousing 'love and light' the most are the ones who need to fall into the abyss of their own darkness the most, as well. They tend to be some of the most inauthentic people I have ever met and I mean inauthentic toward <i>themselves</i>, not necessarily, others. There are certain behaviors that are present within the vast majority of the love and light crowd.<br />
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First, I notice that may within the 'love and light' crowd like to use guilt as a motivator. Now, this only works if the person on the other end harbors feelings of guilt or some insecurity that can be linked to these feelings. One thing I hear from these types is, "You may not like them, but you have to/should love them anyway." Well, no. I am not required to waste my energy on anyone. I do not like them. I do not have to like them. I certainly do not have to love them. I can look at that person and feel absolutely nothing. I am not required to speak to them, touch them, or interact. There is zero requirement for me to entertain that notion.<br />
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Second, I notice that these types often get frustrated and very angry when other people refuse to be controlled. These types will often 'call out' an individual in an effort to shame them, another emotion that one must espouse for these types to manipulate another individual. If one is not ashamed of one's actions or is not in the wrong, then this tactic doesn't work, thereby creating more anger and frustration for the "love and lighter". This is especially prevalent online. It happens quite regularly, as a matter of fact, in social media groups.<br />
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Indeed, it happened recently in a group that I was a member of. One particular poster wasn't very nice. I didn't like her and most everyone else didn't, either, however, she was a pretty good source of basic information. Something happened off of the group and the moderators flipped the fuck out and one decided to bring it into the group with this post:<br />
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Now, I have done nothing but block out the name of the poster, the group, and those mentioned in the post here. This is a screenshot of the post by a moderator who <i>always</i> espoused how much love and light she had for everyone. Here's what I see:<br />
1. Calling the offender out in the group. This is poor taste and not in the least bit what a leader does, not even with an unreasonable poster. (And, I promise, the offender <i>was</i> unreasonable.) This is an invitation to the group to start bashing said offender because the comments weren't even turned off until the bashing began. Again, nothing love and light about that.<br />
2. This is an intimidation tactic. You are telling everyone who sees this that if they step out of line then you'll do the same to them, tag them in a horrible, hateful post and leave it open for others to bash on them as well. (And, in the meantime, doing exactly what you say others are doing.)<br />
3. You are telling everyone that there are a 'few others' you are after, as well. Waving a veiled threat around to people not mentioned in an effort to scare them into acting and being a certain way.<br />
4. This is venting one's proverbial spleen in a group that has no idea what is going on. This kind of anger is going to seriously upset some of the more timid people. So much for all of that love and light, right? Real leaders simply don't do this.<br />
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Third, when guilt and shame don't work, these 'love and light' guys turn to projection and veiled threats. They project their own insecurities about being respected onto others as a lack of respect and they see every question as an insult to their person and their allies. One of the mods posted something, stomping her proverbial foot about being disrespected and she was going to ban the next person who said <i>anything</i> snarky.<br />
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As you can see, I wasn't the only person who took that comment to mean that said moderator was just going to start banning people willy-nilly because she was extra butthurt that someone disrespected her authority. Of course, my comment was taken as threatening and sarcastic.<br />
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You can see here, the accusation of my being passive-aggressive, even after apologizing. It was somehow my fault that she took things wrong when I asked her to clarify and she threatened me with banning. Again, these 'love and lighters' like to use people as examples. They hate it when their authority is challenged, which as you can see, she 'closed' the discussion by, as I stated above, asking the administrator if she could and getting permission first.<br />
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This kind of behavior goes on for several days, veiled threats, projection of sarcasm and being passive-aggressive, and foot stomping, demanding that everything get back to normal.<br />
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Bullies don't like it when people question them. They don't like it when a person ignores their fits. Bullies like to be in charge and have people just a little bit afraid of them. It gives them a sense of power when they feel like they have none.<br />
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So much of the 'love and light' crowd feels this way: powerless. They think that if they are good and kind and happy and all of the 'good' things in life, then they can hide from their out of control rage, fear, sadness, and cruelty. They can't. Those emotions they try to suppress, that Shadow raises its head in a multitude of ways, including manipulation and a bizarre sense of entitlement.<br />
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We tell our children not to bully each other, but as adults, how can we say this to children when we, ourselves, behave in such a way? Is it any wonder why children would rather kill themselves than live in this world? Do you take people where they are or do you try to force them into your little box of expectations? Do you project love and light or do you use it to your benefit to get people to do what you want?<br />
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When you work with a group of people, in real life or online, keep in mind that not everyone is all love and light all of the time. Keep in mind that some people use the 'light' in a bad way. Keep in mind that love, real love, has no conditions. Love sees you where you are and takes you as you are, only pointing you in the direction that is most beneficial for your own growth, even if that means kicking you Spartan-style into the abyss of your own darkness occasionally. Unfortunately, we humans don't often example that kind of love.<br />
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Brightest blessings,<br />
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P.S. I actually kind of expect some hate mail over this, people crying about how I have the 'love and light' crowd all wrong, etc. If you feel moved to respond, please feel free, however, I don't expect to be proven wrong, and in all honesty, I expect comments to prove me right. If you feel moved to respond, I hope that you <i>are</i> the exception. </div>
River Mourningstarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07487930376498733365noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-909361862629402803.post-46853236363568580572018-02-17T09:31:00.001-06:002018-02-17T09:31:37.328-06:00On Sending Energy, Distance Healing, and Other Well Meaning Magicks<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
We live in a community where everyone thinks they are an empath or a healer but few of us actually are. Social media allows us to send 'healing', 'good juju', or 'thoughts and prayers' to everyone we come across, if they ask for it, however, is this type of helping a good thing?<br />
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I bet your first reaction was, "Of course! How could you even doubt it?" Well, I do doubt it for several reasons and, realistically, some of these doubts are why I rarely send energy and if I do I send it with a very specific intent. (Though, until a conversation came up last week, I couldn't actually tell you why I had these doubts until I was shown a different perspective by a complete stranger.)<br />
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First, let's get the 'thoughts and prayers' out of the way. This is a big one on social media. I could be looking at your situation and thinking that you got what you deserved and praying that you get more of the same. I could be thinking that you <i>don't</i> deserve whatever you're getting and praying that it stops soon. They both can sound altruistic, sure, a person deserves/ doesn't deserve a break in life, or deserves/doesn't deserve death/poverty/illness/winning the lotto. Whatever.<br />
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Now, let's talk about all of that healing we send out. What are we sending when we send 'healing'? Some of us send Reiki. Others send healing energy, which is different but achieves a similar end. This difference can be significant.<br />
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As a Reiki practitioner, I can attest to the fact that Reiki is different from healing energy in two ways. First, Reiki is a blessing. Being a type of love energy, it is very highly vibrational and will get through any shields, wards, or other protections due to its very energetic nature. The spirit or higher self is not going to deflect this type of energy unless specifically instructed by the Self to do so and if we are asking for healing, we aren't going to turn 'good' energy away.<br />
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Healing energy achieves a similar end to Reiki, but it often comes from the Self or is drawn up from the earth (or down from the heavens), charged, and sent to the person in need. This energy is often tainted with our own energy signature and can be deflected, rejected, or sent back if the receiver wants to, but again, often doesn't because of being 'open' to that intent.<br />
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So, then, what happens when someone is having an illness and they ask for healing? Depends. If it is a broken leg or post-surgery request, boosting up the healing for them will, hopefully, get them up and about quickly. It should keep the infection down or knit the bone, and in general, be a big help.<br />
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What happens, though, if this person has cancer or an autoimmune illness? The cancer is growing because the body does not recognize it as an invader or as an out of control growth of cells. What is 'healing' doing? Does it knock down the side effects of the chemo/biotherapy? Does it do its best to flush the chemo/biotherapy from the sick person's system? (In an effort to make them 'well' from the therapy?) Does it simply help the person along to die because their body is simply too worn out? Autoimmune illnesses already deal with an out of control immune system. Why would one want to boost an already overworked immune system with 'healing' when it is likely that suppression is likely what is needed? Another excellent example of 'healing' gone wrong is the flu.<br />
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How does the body 'heal' the flu? High. Fucking. Fevers. Now, why would you want to boost someone's immune system with 'healing energy' when the only way to beat something like that is a fever? Those fevers lead to things like dehydration if they aren't monitored. Sure, I know you're thinking that I'm missing the obvious to get the fever down, acetaminophen or ibuprofen, however, keeping one's fever down is inhibiting the body's ability to fight that infection. Fevers are good, at least to a point (and then we go back to the hydration/dehydration fever cycle.) Also, I'm not going to do more than mention things like seizures, deafness, and other things caused by an out of control fever.<br />
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Finally, I want to discuss pain as a growth factor. For some people, what they are going through is 'growing pains'. Do we really want to wish pain (or <i>more</i> pain) on someone who is already hurting? There are times when we, as human beings, are required by this life to find a new perspective through pain. Whether it is physical, mental, or emotional, the pain gives us what we need to grow. I know that I certainly don't unless I know <i>very</i> explicitly that I am giving this person pain in order to find a new perspective.<br />
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These are just a few examples of how our ideas of healing can go awry. When we send energy, Reiki or otherwise, it must be with the complete understanding that what we are doing may not have the results we expect. While we often sympathize or empathize with the person asking for help, sometimes their pain is both deserved and needed to help them along in this life. We must also understand that our helping can <i>kill</i> them if it is their time to die or their body is just too weak to keep going.<br />
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Next time, when a friend asks for healing, Reiki, or juju of any kind, remember to send it with the knowledge that it will help, but it may not be helpful in the way you expect or want it to.<br />
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Brightest Blessings,<br />
River</div>
River Mourningstarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07487930376498733365noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-909361862629402803.post-32532473904073838802018-02-03T07:11:00.000-06:002018-02-03T07:11:02.270-06:00When Meditation Is Not the Answer<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
As pagans, we often look to each other for advice when it comes to energy work. Among the new and old practitioners alike, the answer is often, "Meditation could help you with this." While this statement is true about 90% of the time, there are times when stilling your body and mind is not what is needed to produce more awareness. (Even if all of the new age hoo-ha tells us that meditation is the ultimate.)<br />
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So, when is meditation not the answer? Meditation is not the answer when you need to be more aware of your Self. A recent conversation I participated in online is a good example. The poster wanted to know how to strengthen his will. He recognized that it was more iron-clad when he was angry than when he was not and stated that he had a difficult time holding his intent. This is an excellent example of meditation not being the answer. (Have you ever stopped yourself from being angry by meditation? No? Join the club!!) Meditation will teach this posted how to recognize triggers that make him angry and it will teach him how to not react to those triggers unless he chooses to.<br />
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If the poster knows his will is stronger when he is angry, then he recognizes that it has a different sensation. Our emotions create physical sensations in our body. The problem we have is that we are usually too emotional to feel them, so we ride along that roller coaster. When we 'get into our feelings' we become enslaved to our emotions for that moment.<br />
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When we begin to cultivate self-awareness (first through meditation and then through life), we begin to notice these triggers. We begin to notice the physical sensations that go along with fear, anger, jealousy, joy, love, gratitude and even resentment. We begin to notice the physical sensations that trigger the emotional response. When we discover the trigger and the sensation, we can choose (eventually, at least) how much energy we expend on that emotion. This is the essence of cultivating the will and while this process begins with meditation, it can not be fully realized through meditation alone.<br />
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The moment we begin to choose how to spend the energy we have built up emotionally is the moment we, as practitioners, can choose how to wield our intent. Recognizing the physical sensations that go with certain emotions is the first step to that. How does one do this? It is both simple and not.<br />
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First, one must cultivate an awareness of one's body. To do this, I use a simple exercise taught to me by a very wise elder. I call it the "Let It Go Technique" and it is 4 steps:<br />
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1. Sit at a table, such as the dining room table, and hold a coin in the palm of your closed hand with your arm out in front of you, larger is better than smaller (such as a quarter or half-dollar instead of a dime).<br />
2. Feel that coin in the palm of your hand. Close your eyes for this if you choose, but feel its weight, temperature, texture. Read it with your physical senses.<br />
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You will know you are successful in this exercise when you can feel every muscle, tendon, and ligament move, the pressure of the coin sliding from your hand, and if any of the tiny hairs on the backs of your hands and wrists are affected.<br />
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This simple exercise cultivates awareness of your body. If it is done enough times, one will begin to notice the tiny movements of one's hand or forearm muscles during other activities. This awareness then will translate to noticing the various sensations of our bodies as we move through life. Ultimately, this exercise opens up our awareness to the physical sensations that go along with emotions. Once one can feel the emotions physically, meditation is a good time to recall the sensation and explore it. This will also help to cultivate the will.<br />
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As practitioners, we tell each other to meditate all of the time. Meditation is not the answer for every situation. Meditation is not even the answer for most situations. Realistically, most practitioners these days don't actually do true meditation, so what we are suggesting to each other are different techniques for different practices that we all just call meditation, but that's for a different blog.<br />
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Have a blessed Imbolc. May the seeds you plant in the coming season flourish in the coming year.<br />
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River Mourningstarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07487930376498733365noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-909361862629402803.post-40026842411095799072017-12-03T09:14:00.000-06:002017-12-10T08:09:10.677-06:00No, That's Not How Magic Works!<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
It's no secret that I have recently been trolling for blog fodder in facebook magical groups. While life has got me super busy right now, I have had plenty of topics to blog about. These topics seem to cycle in these groups. Right now, the requests seem to be "I need a quick magical solution to some hard mundane problem!"<br />
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People do not seem to understand that magic does not work like that. No, magic isn't going to cure (and likely not help) your child with severe ADHD. Giving him a routine, his medications, discipline, and your unending love, as well as some psychiatric help if you can't handle him will be more effective than magic. Giving him coping skills that will help him now and later in life will be more effective than magic.<br />
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Telling a young magician that s/he can destroy energy without any explanation of how is another delusional, and quite frankly, stupid response. Sorry, no, you aren't standing at your altar and tearing apart the fabric of space-time. No, you aren't going to defy gravity and levitate (although it is reported that Buddhist monks can do this. so I do believe it is possible, but not through magical means). I'm sorry, no, you aren't going to destroy energy of any kind and if you think you are, you need to brush up on your science.<br />
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Simply put, magic does not work that way. Magic is not going to make your eyes change color. Magic is not going to make your grandmother's cancer go away. Magic is not going to help you lose weight. At least it isn't going to help you in the way you want it to.<br />
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Here's how magic works:<br />
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So, you want to lose weight? You do a spell to lose weight. Three days later your friend comes over and tells you that she's doing Weight Watchers. Oh, damn, but you don't have the money to join with her. That's okay. She can teach you the points system as she's learning and you can lose weight together! BAM!! Your spell worked!<br />
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If you let go of the expectations you had for your spell and let your friend teach you, then it worked. If you turn your friend down and keep doing what you're doing and searching for the outcome you want, then your magic will never work. Period.<br />
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There is this very prevalent misconception within the magical community that intention is everything. (Thanks to <i>The Secret</i>, no doubt.) However, <i>The Secret</i> is wrong. Intention <i>isn't</i> everything. I can work at a shitty minimum-wage job my entire life with the intention of being a millionaire and never achieve that intention. Why? Because intention isn't everything. If I am not going to buy a lotto ticket, I can't manifest that intent. If I don't educate myself, then I can't manifest that intent. If I don't spend the time and effort working toward that goal, then it just isn't going to happen. People don't seem to understand that.<br />
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People also don't seem to understand that a shitty spell meme isn't going to manifest dick, especially for a person new to the Craft. Those of us who are a little more seasoned will understand that energy must be raised <i>or</i> we are working with the inherent properties of the tools used and should probably pull out the correspondence charts to make sure everything is in line with the intent of the spell.<br />
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What does that mean? Well, what it means is, a spell is more than simply lighting a candle, saying a few words, and blowing it out unless that's all it is, except that's rarely the case. Here is what I mean:<br />
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"Light a white candle, say an incantation, blow the candle out. Do this twice a day."<br />
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This was, literally, a 'fascinating' spell meme posted to a group.<br />
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First, is white the color you want or are you using it because it's the universal candle color? If it's because it's universal, then you need to charge it to represent the outcome that you want.<br />
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Second, the words you chant have power, but if you don't put anything behind them (or don't know to) they mean nothing. (There's your intent!!)<br />
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Third, why aren't you letting the candle actually burn? The inherent properties of the element of fire will aid your intent. Why <i>not</i> let them?<br />
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Fourth, what's so important about 2? Would another number fit this intention better or is two most appropriate? Is this just an arbitrary number given for convenience?<br />
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Fifth, how long do I do this? Do I do it until I get the desired outcome or until the candle runs out?<br />
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Sixth, won't blowing the candle out scatter the energy or air negate the fire? Would snuffing it be more appropriate? (Mostly, this is a question of 'do you know how to blow out a candle respectfully'.)<br />
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In the end, these 3 or 4 sentences become much more than just sit down, light a candle, intention, and incantation, blow it out, repeat. Also, I know that I have not addressed the idea of casting a circle and calling the elements. This was purposefully left out as I don't believe that some magics need a full-on ritual.<br />
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So, why is it that practitioners today <i>need</i> to believe that magic is a cure-all? I believe it's mostly because we, as humans, are always looking for an easy way out. We are always looking for the workaround. Well, magic isn't it. Sorry. I know all of the Llewlyn books you've read might say it is, but it just isn't.<br />
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If magic worked that way, we'd all be millionaires or beauty queens. Our wildest dreams would come true. No, real magic takes work, energy to achieve. Real magic exacts a cost from us, whether or not we realize it.<br />
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Brightest Blessings,<br />
River</div>
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Lately, I have been tooling around in Facebook groups for witches. Some of these groups are utterly laughable to people who actually practice magic. What I have noticed is that people take to Facebook (of all places) to beg for spells. They often do this after admitting that they know nothing of magic. Others post images easily googled into these same groups with absolutely zero commentary. The image below is one such 'spell' that has crossed my screen as of late. Neither the poster nor one other commentator could tell me why, exactly, this spell was 'black'. Now, I am of the thought that if you can't look at a spell or incantation and surmise, at least, two possible outcomes for it, then you probably don't need to be trying it. These days, critical thinking is essential and no one seems to be able to do it! </div>
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So, let's break down this spell and see what makes it 'black magic' and decide if it will do anything more than give you gas.</div>
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<i>"The color pink is gentle and feminine and evokes the scent of apple blossoms and the laughter of little girls. Pink is calming and energetic all at once. Wear the color pink to evoke youthful energy and childlike joy. Pink can be used in magic for emotional love, tenderness, conception, babies, pregnancy, romance, youth, peace, emotional healing, inner harmony, femininity, and friendship. The action of the color pink is similar to that of the color <a href="http://www.witchipedia.com/color:red">red</a> but gentler and more muted.</i></div>
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<i>Wear and decorate with the color pink, or burn pink candles to relax and energize, calm aggression and relieve stress. The color pink is also used to suppress the appetite.</i></div>
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<i>In Japan, the color pink is associated with the spring blooming of the cherry blossoms (Sakura) which are associated with the souls of warriors fallen in battle."</i></div>
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Musk oil as quoted directly from <a href="http://www.tryskelion.com/herbs_magickal_oil_correspondences.html">here</a> and <a href="https://robjo.wordpress.com/2010/03/22/16-common-incenses-and-their-uses/">here</a>: </div>
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<i>"A love oil used to arouse one's passion and heighten sexual pleasure. Also used to draw new situations and prosperity."</i></div>
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<i>"Musk is Earth associative. It’s a good incense for restoring balance and order, realigning one's energies, sealing portals, creating barriers and protections, and removing the influences of negative magick. It’s also a good incense to burn to Saturn. Musk is also associated with chthonic deities and the underworld. It’s more concerned with underworld energies and accessing the underworld than bringing forth the dead. It’s a good incense to burn for certain underworld entities."</i></div>
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<i>"In magickal practice, marjoram is chiefly a love herb. It is typically employed in the creation of love-potions or attraction charms. It plays a major role in fixing spells and enchantments. In more practical applications, marjoram is useful for deflecting bad luck and accidents, as well as for promoting harmony in households. Burnt as an incense, it is said to banish discord where its smoke is wafted. Marjoram may even be used to help improve relationships and marriages, especially when combined with basil and rose petals. Marjoram incense or an herbal sachet made with marjoram blossoms and balm of Gilead buds may even be used to help with depression, to counter psychic attacks, and to banish bad or negative thoughts."</i></div>
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<i>Uses: Add to all love charms or place a piece in rooms for protection. Give to a grieving person to bring them happiness."</i></div>
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<i>" This perennial herb ... and was known to the Greeks and Romans as a symbol of happiness and love due to its close association with the fierce and beautiful Goddess of Love, Aphrodite. Moreover, Marjoram is sacred to Isis, Egyptian Goddess of Love and all blessings.</i></div>
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The first paragraph says: <i>"Cast the circle, call the quarters. Dim the lights, leave a candle burning if you wish. Take the pink candle and anoint it with musk oil while thinking of the person who you want. Scratch the name of the person on one side of the pink candle and the word love on the other side."</i></div>
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In the first half a dozen words, I see a problem for a new practitioner. If you can't cast a circle or call the quarters, you should stop right there and go learn to do that. If you can, let's move on. All prep, such as dimming the lights, lighting candles, etc. should have been done before the circle was cast.</div>
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The anointing of candles with oil can be done a multitude of ways, but it is easier to carve the candle and <i>then</i> anoint it so you don't have to try and get a blade or sharp object into a slippery candle. Also, there are specific ways to anoint candles to draw/attract and repel/banish that this spell does not address. Is the practitioner supposed to know this already? I sure hope so!</div>
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Now, we get to the 'grit' of this 'black magic spell'. Well, sort of. There are those who believe that because this spells focuses on a specific person, that it is an attempt to bend their will to the caster's own and is, therefore 'black magic'. I am inclined to agree, mostly due to my Wiccan training. That said, I do not judge those who would choose to do this spell because I can see multiple possible outcomes and, honestly, many of them include the phrases, "you got what you wanted" and "be careful what you ask for".</div>
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<i>Place the pink cloth on the plate with "just a little nudge" facing down. Light the candle and affix the cloth to the plate by letting hot wax drip on the corners of the cloth. While visualizing your desire, use wax drippings to form the shape of a heart in the middle of the cloth. Drip some wax in the middle of the heart shape and place the candle there.</i></div>
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Anyway, moving on. Visualizing ones desire. Do you know how to visualize? If not, guess what you should do. That's right, learn what that is and how to do it. If you do know, then you're good. Let's move on, shall we? Also, when are we going to compel the other person to "dream of me, be with me"? Why are we doing this at all? Is it for the 'dream walking'?</div>
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And now we add the herb! I think we should be adding it to the melting wax, but again, the spell isn't very clear. However, the caster needs to know how to 'empower' things. Do you know how to move energy? If you don't, you aren't going to 'empower' anything. If you do, are you charging it with your own energy? Are you going to draw earth energy up or maybe draw down the moon? Let's get creative!! Obviously, though, a pinch is all we need.</div>
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To complete the spell, you must, I think, break up the wax on the cloth while thinking of your desire. Now, remember, this cloth is affixed to a plate with the same, now hardened wax. Good luck getting that unstuck from the plate without a knife or other scraping tool not listed above.</div>
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Oh, have you been sitting in this circle for 12 hours waiting for this candle to burn down and the wax to harden? Did you leave circle while the magic was being completed? I sure hope you know how to cut a door to your circle. Did you leave the quarters called? They might be a bit unhappy as to have to wait around while you go on with life, don't you think?</div>
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Assuming that you know what you're doing and you finished the spell, released the quarters and circle, now you get to shove all of that stuff in a bag and sleep with it until you can find a way to orchestrate a meeting with said person you most desire where you take the pouch with you and wait until the time is right. </div>
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Yeah, this spell is incomplete, aside from being total trash, to begin with. However, I want to back up just a little bit and explore <i>why</i> one would even consider a spell like this. What draws us to the supposed taboo? What draws us to tempt the Fates and attempt to harness such god-like powers as bending the will of another to our own? </div>
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Honestly? It's different for each person, but it comes down to control, power, and significance. Now, there are those who would argue that every choice we make influences those around us and bends their will to ours. Personally, I believe that if you are aware of how your words and deeds affect others, then you can be aware of when those words and deeds affect others negatively. </div>
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It's all up to the practitioner, but the reality of the world we live in is thus: We are all <i>always</i> trying to do what is best for ourselves. We put our best face forward to get a job (and we could cast a glamour to do this). We tell people what they want to hear and show them what they want to see. </div>
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This sudden rise in 'black magic' is a two-fold thing. It is people who feel powerless and want to have some kind of control (or feel like it) and it's those who would prey on those who feel powerless. What do I mean by this? Someone is on eBay selling this particular spell for about $5 already printed on parchment for your BoS. </div>
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If you do not know how to write your own spells, buying one won't make you powerful. This spell, literally, raised no energy toward the goal. Now, an adept practitioner will know when to raise energy and how to do it. In fact, they will be able to do it with a simple thought, but once again, one who is new will not have any idea.</div>
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This is the modern-day equivalent to the ancient grimoires. The ones published today have most of the magical sigils and words, but few of the practical things like correspondences that the neophyte would have discussed with the adept, the things that aren't written down. The powers of deduction and critical thinking are lost on most people today, which is why we have people selling 'powerful black magic spells'. </div>
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River Mourningstarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07487930376498733365noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-909361862629402803.post-15288292346044664292017-11-04T07:03:00.000-05:002017-11-04T07:03:15.959-05:00Know Thyself<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Being the weekend of the full moon, and the final one of the Witch's Year (the sun goes 15 degrees Scorpio Nov. 6, marking Samhain) I thought it would be a good time to do a bit of reflection and musing on what it means to be Witch.<br />
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I have recently ventured into the world of Facebook groups for pagans. It has been both enlightening and terrifying. Most people post asking for spells, mostly money and luck and, occasionally, love. Others post asking for help of some kind or asking for (some demanding) free tarot readings. Still, others post stating they have done some spell or another and why didn't it work and can someone help them.<br />
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To the last one, they get all of these responses of 'you can't doubt yourself' and 'it won't work if you doubt your magic'. Both good points, but neither addressing more than one potential cause of the spell actually not working. Realistically, there is an infinite number of points in the timeline where the magic could have been scattered, absorbed, or otherwise used up to make the magic not work.<br />
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First, the practitioner may need to change their perception of the world. In this world of 'spells are like prayers on steroids' people honestly believe that they can simply speak their desires into existence. Except, most people can't due to lack of discipline, faith, or understanding. To put it simply, it was doomed before it was begun to do subconscious concepts that the practitioner may or may not even realize they have.<br />
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Second, the structure of the spell could have been faulty. Spell and ritual creation are like baking. You have ingredients that must be added at the right time and in the right proportion with the right amount of catalyst to create the change. If any of those things are off, the spell won't work. What do I mean? Well, too much flour and your cake is dry and crumbly. Too much liquid and it is sticky and not quite done in the center but almost burnt around the edges. Too much heat, your cake burns. Too little and it doesn't cook.<br />
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Third, and this may be the most important one, if you want to learn these things, no one can do it for you. The manufacture of coincidence isn't a practice that one sits down and simply does from the beginning, just as one does not simply bake a cake at 5 years old. While, yes, talent helps, discipline and practice hone the talent and sharpens it like the edge of a razor.<br />
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In a world of instant gratification and 'The Secret' type of thinking. No one wants to believe that discipline and practice are what it takes to become a magician. They believe that they can read a book on the basics and cast a spell to be a millionaire or to make someone love them. If that were the case, a witch would win the lotto every week.<br />
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The magical axiom, Know Thyself, takes on a new meaning once you turn inward and stop blaming all of the outside sources for your spells not working. Do you fear failure? Maybe success? Do you fear being found out? Who are You? What makes You tick? Once you figure out your fears, you can get on with becoming an adept magician.<br />
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Brightest Blessings, All!!<br />
River</div>
River Mourningstarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07487930376498733365noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-909361862629402803.post-89928071841228183352017-10-01T09:59:00.000-05:002017-10-01T09:59:08.354-05:00Soul Contracts: Evolution Through Experience<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
I have been thinking about the concept of soul contracts lately. I can not say that I know the origin of the theory, and I know that some people believe the idea to be new age hooey. I'm somewhere in between.While we pagans like to attribute <i>everything</i> to karma, I am of the belief that some of our life circumstances and events our soul agrees to pre-incarnation. I am of the belief that our soul makes pacts with other souls in our group pre-incarnation so that we may evolve. How the situations and life circumstances are handled by the two egos determine the amount of karmic debt that is repaid. This repayment determines how far the scales come back into balance.<br />
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For instance, a moderately prominent adult in my own community was recently accused of, what amounted to, molestation by a child. Having known this adult and the child for the better part of a decade now, I would have a difficult time believing the accusations. My own thoughts were that the kid misspoke. Period. However, the person who was given the information, initially, is a mandated reporter. So, of course, once word got out this person had been reported, it was a huge kerfuffle.<br />
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The reported adult, let's call her Beatrice, believes that she was reported out of spite. Her friends also believe this. The mandated reporter, let's call him Aaron, has repeatedly espoused that he heard about abuse and reported it as he is required to do, no judgment. The parents involved could not or did not communicate to each other about their children, which is what led to this situation. No judgment. It is precisely what life is made of.<br />
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If indeed, a soul contract was made within this soul group of people, this means that seven souls came together and agreed on the general semantics of the situation: one would be the reporter to the authorities, one would be the reported to the authorities, one would be the "victim", one would be the "victim's" friend and secret holder, and the final three would have communication issues that may or may not have prevented the whole situation. Soul contracts sound as complicated as mundane contracts!<br />
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Despite that complication, we still aren't even to the heart of the possibilities of the implications of a soul contract. So, to cut down on complications, we will focus on Beatrice and Aaron, since it is their lives that will probably be the most impacted in the long term. (We all know how long adult's memories can be.)<br />
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We will talk about Aaron, first. Aaron heard about abuse and, as a teacher/mentor/clergy, is required by law to report it. This is difficult if you <i>don't</i> know all of the people involved, so knowing those involved, I can imagine made it even more difficult.<br />
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The one thing I noticed people telling him was that he shouldn't have reported a rumor. Another thing I noticed was that he was told that he should have used 'common sense and good judgment' and gone to the other adults in the situation, including the accused. While that is good, sound advice in most situations, that is not how mandated reporting actually works. Many people, including other mandated reporters, think that just asking an accused abuser if they are abusing is enough to get them to stop (if the abuse is actually happening and not just a wild rumor).<br />
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For a mandated reporter, reporting abuse is just that, mandatory. If one does not report suspected abuse, it can be punishable by a fine. That's right. A person can be charged with a misdemeanor.<br />
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So, despite the judgment of not using 'common sense', Aaron did just that. He knew, as a mandated reporter, that his job was to not judge a situation. He knew that he should only report it to the proper authorities and make sure that the child was safe. In doing this, he created ripples throughout the community.<br />
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Sometimes, we do the right thing and, despite that, we are roasted alive because, let's face it, people have no ethics these days. Aaron was <i>lambasted </i>by our local community. His name was dragged through the dirt, repeatedly, by people calling him various names and accusing him of predating on women. Oh, the libel flew! People kept asking him <i>why</i> he would do such a thing but no one wanted to hear that it wasn't personal. People wanted to believe that Beatrice was just being victimized by another man.<br />
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Aaron has stood firm, despite the attacks on his person, his values, and his ethics. He knows that he did the right thing and he knows that no matter how many people tell him he was wrong, he wasn't.<br />
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Now, we come to Beatrice. She was accused of molesting a child. She is an inherently good person who, for whatever reason, got caught up in this terrible situation. She, too, is a mandated reporter and should know how that works. This terrible accusation has put her career on hold, among other things.<br />
She now has to battle the stigma of having been accused of something so terrible.<br />
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She also has to deal with knowing that her friends, in coming to her 'aid', chose to name call, harass, and accuse the other person. While she may not have actively encouraged this behavior, it was done on her behalf, so those effects are something that she will have to deal with, even if it is to say, "Not my words, not my actions."<br />
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So, what can they each learn from this so that they, as universal souls, can evolve? Well, first, these situations create thick skins for those involved. Those who do the right thing will <i>always </i>be accused of doing the right thing due to selfish reasoning. Those who are falsely accused need that thick skin to raise their heads above the mess and move forward.<br />
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Another thing to learn from this situation is compassion. What if the involved child <i>was</i> being molested but not by the accused? What if the child <i>was</i> being abused and didn't know how to bring it to the attention of the adults in his/her life because they are so busy being grown-ups that they did not have the time or energy or whatever to listen to the child?<br />
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Why didn't the accused 'step out' of her own inadequacies and victimhood for a moment to put herself in the shoes of the one who reported her? Remember, the accused is also a mandated reporter and may, one day, end up doing the reporting. Wouldn't that compassion for the other person also translate to compassion for one's self? I would hope so.<br />
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Probably the biggest lesson to learn from this is that knee-jerk reactions to situations show us where we are lacking in our evolution. If our first reaction is indignation or anger, we should ask ourselves why. Yes, false accusations are <i>horrible</i>. They are beyond horrible, however, if one is innocent, there's nothing to worry about. If there's nothing to worry about one can focus on things like compassion and understanding. (And, understand, I'm not suggesting that anger or indignation signals one is guilty. I only suggest that maybe one has something to hide if they are doing whatever they can to get the negative spotlight off of themselves.)<br />
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We all experience horrible situations in life. Whether we are accused falsely (or rightly) of some crime or we contribute to or witness death or we just encourage something we should not. Our own actions and reactions suggest what and where we need to learn the lessons we were put here to learn. We have soul contracts in place with people whom we reincarnate with throughout various lifetimes. These people, whether or not our ego knows it, are people whom our soul trusts and whose soul trusts us, to be the best vessel for learning the very tough lessons we must learn and endure.<br />
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These souls agree with our own about the varied and potential outcomes within that lifetime. On a soul level, we agree to hurt each other in order to find healing. We agree that our ego may get in the way and that it will add another level of hurt/healing to our soul's journey. These contracts are, sometimes, difficult to digest. Just remember, the next time someone seems to go out of their way to hurt you, maybe you agreed to it before you were born and there is a lesson to be learned from it.<br />
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Blessed Be, Friends,<br />
River</div>
River Mourningstarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07487930376498733365noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-909361862629402803.post-46543898704682626092017-09-24T16:10:00.000-05:002017-09-24T16:10:00.129-05:00Of Gods and Internet Service<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
We live in a world where technology is everything and electronics are everywhere. We craft new names and personas for ourselves in cyberspace. We decorate it with art and photography. We forge bonds with people, real people, half a world away and angrily bludgeon our neighbor with our words on social media. We can influence the life of someone we will never get to meet face-to-face. We can live a second, completely different life, in cyberspace than what we live in spacetime. What if the gods reside in cyberspace with us? What if Brigid actively influences a young woman's interest in smithing through ads on Facebook? What if Loki plants the seeds of chaos by kicking out certain letters in emails and thereby changing the words and the meaning of the whole sentence? What if Bast preens in adoration of the billions upon billions of websites dedicated to cat-kind? What if Gwyn ap Nudd is mortified at the seeming ability of humankind of suddenly be immortal? What if our gods are alive and, very much, well because of the internet?<br />
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Some months ago, a friend suggested this very notion to me. The gods rest beyond the physical realm. They always have. They rest within a realm of pure energy. Is the cyberspace not that very thing? Is it not a space of pure energy apart from, but not outside of, our own physical realm? Why <i>wouldn't</i> the gods reside there and, importantly, why <i>couldn't</i> they mete out justice in within cyberspace for infractions committed within cyberspace?<br />
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Let's just go with the gods influencing cyberspace. Let's say that they have taken residence up there. What could that look like?<br />
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Well, what if you spent months or years being a jerk to people who really didn't deserve it? Maybe you spent some time abusing people who didn't deserve it, using them for their money or sex. Or, maybe you lied to someone, broke their heart. The scenarios are endless. You know, Zeus is a big fucking jerk and a god of justice (among other things). How dare you out-jerk him!! SMITE! Maybe your email is hacked or your Instagram. Maybe people get to see that you aren't really a jerk, just scared or hurt or insecure. There's your karma.<br />
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Are you a control freak? (I know that I am!!) Maybe the gods remind you that <i>nothing</i> is within your control when your computer gets held hostage by a virus that was embedded in a link you didn't mean to click. Dammit! Loki, stop touching things!<br />
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Don't like someone you see on social media frequently? Does their face make you want to vomit? Why not just block them? No, no, don't be salty. Don't report them to Facebook! Damn. Now, Hera, stop being petty. You don't have to like everybody. What about when one of those stupid 'copy and paste' this posts comes across your newsfeed on Facebook, except it's not one of the stupid ones, but the number to the suicide hotline and you were just about ready to give up. Osirus is reminding you that it isn't quite time.<br />
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Is it too far-fetched to believe that Thoth and Minerva and sitting at a table at the local library, laptop screen to laptop screen, staring at each other in awe of our hubris and stupidity? "Do they even know that we have, literally, given them all of human knowledge?" Thoth asks, aghast.<br />
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"The greater question is 'do they know they carry it in their hands and pockets' and <i>why won't they use it</i>?" Minerva responds, exasperated.<br />
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"Have we failed?" Thoth questions. "Have we failed them so utterly?"<br />
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The world we know is changing and we, as a people, are changing with it. Why wouldn't our gods adapt, too? Why wouldn't they use very real and concrete ways, such as the internet, to influence our thinking? Why wouldn't they use something that this, literally, their realm within our own to their advantage to guide those who are actively seeking?<br />
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Brightest blessings, Friends. Thank you got coming along with me on this journey. We are, officially, 100 posts in as of today!<br />
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River Mourningstarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07487930376498733365noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-909361862629402803.post-88603364476594823402017-09-17T19:51:00.001-05:002017-09-17T19:51:54.304-05:00The Cult of Self-Importance and Delusions of Grandeur<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
This writing may strike a cord with a great many of you, dear readers. If it does, you should take note because I'm probably talking about you. This writing is not meant as a judgment. It is not meant as a verbal takedown of any kind. It is not meant to be any more than a reminder. It is a reminder of who you <i>actually</i> are and where you <i>actually</i> come from. Nothing more. Nothing less.<br />
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Since coming to the pagan community nearly a decade ago, I have noticed a huge culture change. Those who were once our teachers, people who put decades of work into their craft, are being ostracised or pushed into the background for younger, more beautiful, versions of themselves who promise enlightenment in 6 easy steps! These same people are charging their students through the nose for these 6 easy steps and in just a few months time, BAM!! You've bought enlightenment and can go on to be a guru yourself.<br />
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The problem is that enlightenment is not easy. What we, as pagans, are doing is very similar to when the Catholic Church sold Indulgences. You can't buy enlightenment, much in the same way that you can't buy forgiveness. We are creating this culture of self-important idiots with delusions of grandeur who believe that they can do as they please without regard to people or consequences. Yes, I used the word 'idiot'. I used the word idiot because it is the idiot or fool who blindly sets out toward a goal. It is the idiot who, in their own blind confidence, plows over anything and everything in their path, leaving a trail of destruction and debris, or as the tarot car suggests, walks straight off a cliff into the unknown that just might be one's own destruction.<br />
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We are, literally, seeing that in our communities today. Our teachers and Elders, the keepers of knowledge, are backing into the shadows. Many of them are shrugging their shoulders and letting people be who they are, where they are. Many are pointing out the snake oil salesmen and paying the price. Aside from human nature, why is that?<br />
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I suspect it is a combination of several things. First, we think that we can buy experiences. If someone is promising you something that will change your life, it is one of two things, either it's an exaggeration or you are going to have to work at it to change your life. I know more people than I care to count who demand these life-changing experiences. They jump from teacher to teacher, path to path, looking for that next spiritual high. The thing I have noticed is that these people always jump ship or get mad or don't have the time as soon as the studies get hard or time-consuming or super in depth.<br />
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In keeping with the 'this is not a judgment' statement, there's nothing really 'wrong' with moving from teacher to teacher. We are free to do these things as we please, however, there is a lesson to learn both the jumping around and from staying. I think they both boil down to 'what are you running from'? Facing the lesson is where the life-changing experience comes from or running to the point the lesson can no longer be ignored, that can also be life-changing.<br />
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Second, if you have to insist that you are qualified and repeatedly say fantastical things to 'prove' you are qualified to discuss a topic, then you are not qualified. Period. If you are 20 and claim to be some 10,000 year old Atlantean Fae, I'm sorry, you have just lost me. If you look me in the eye and, at 20, tell me you have the craft experience of someone twice your age, you can damn sure bet that I'm going to start asking you questions. Basic. Questions. And, you damn sure better know the answers.<br />
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Now, don't get me wrong, Therianthropy and Otherkinness are absolutely actual things. People absolutely <i>are</i> fae, elves, dragons, spiders, and other beings or creatures. I'd never debate that, having experienced what I have, personally. (See what I did there?? *winks*) However, if you have to announce your race to me as some kind of magical street cred, that lets me know that you pretty much don't have a clue, especially if I am a relative stranger and I haven't revealed who or what I am. If you, in any way, have to 'prove' to me that you're qualified (aside from an offer of credentials or a request for credentials) then, I know that you probably aren't. I also know that you need to feel important or needed or relevant or any number of other insecurities you might be feeling.<br />
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As a group, we also have this need to make sure that no one is left out. People like to beat their chests about how inclusive their group is. People like to brag about how the members of their group don't have to 'prove' anything or how they are so compassionate and give others second chances that they might not get otherwise. In a perfect world, this would be how things should be. This is a dangerous mindset, though.<br />
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Yes, most everyone deserves a second chance. I wholly agree with that. However, do you allow someone on the sex offenders list in your group because of the story they give you? Do you allow drug dealers, arsonists, and frauds in your group because no one else will give them a chance? If not someone who is a convicted felon, what about someone who likes to steal or lies? I certainly don't want someone who lies to me in my home!<br />
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The fact is, we <i>all</i> have some place where we belong. Sometimes that place is on the fringe. There is a lesson in standing on the outside and looking in. There is a lesson in standing at the edge of the group, yet not being included for whatever reason. It is not the end of the world. Sometimes, that lack of inclusion is the biggest blessing in the world! Sometimes, that lack of inclusion means that we do not have to pretend to be someone we are not. It means that we do not have to choose a mask to wear or a dance to perform to placate the people who included us.<br />
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Lastly, we live in a world where we are told that we <i>have</i> to be somebody. Extroverts are the best. Overachievers are the best. Leaders are the best. Excel at <i>everything</i>. No! This is out of balance!<br />
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Sometimes, it's the introvert who draws up the plans and then stands in the shadows watching the extrovert carrying them out who is the hero of the day. If everyone is a leader, who is there to follow? If everyone is in charge, who is there to do the work? So often in life, the work that needs to be done is the scut work. It's mucking out the hog pen. It's crawling on hands and knees to weed. It's sitting in front of Photoshop for hours on end hoping for inspiration and ending up with a blank screen. It is seventy-two interruptions as you are trying to write a blog and you really, <i>really</i> don't care about your sister's ratchet ass friends, but you listen anyway because that's what is needed from you at the time. <i>That</i> is the important work. Putting yourself and your own wants aside and giving to someone in need.<br />
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No, you don't <i>have</i> to be someone. You only <i>have</i> to be someone to the person who needs you the most. You have to be the best <i>you</i>.<br />
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This cult of self-importance leads most people to delusions of grandeur. Once we die and return to the elements, no one is going to remember most of us. No one is going to wax poetic about all of the work most of us did. Once the shock or trauma in the psyche of most people we know passes and we are returned to the earth, our beingness is going to begin to fade. Our realness is going to begin to fade. They won't remember what a great leader we were. They won't remember how hard we worked. They won't remember how many blogs we wrote or spells we cast or tarot readings we got right.<br />
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If we are to be remembered, we will be remembered by how much and how often we gave of ourselves. We will be remembered for the kind words to those who were in pain. We will be remembered by the compassion we gave the dying and those whom they left behind. We will be remembered by how much we lied. We will be remembered by how we disdained people and how we went out of our way to hurt them. We will be remembered, not by how relevant we wanted to be, but how relevant we actually were and how we fed and nourished the people around us.<br />
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Don't fall into the cult of self-importance. Don't convince yourself that if you just... Then you'll be loved/liked/wanted/happy/whatever. Do the right thing. Do the thing that benefits others above yourself. If you have extra, give, be, do and do it because you can. Being a selfish twat never benefitted anybody.<br />
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Brightest blessings, Friends!<br />
River</div>
River Mourningstarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07487930376498733365noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-909361862629402803.post-25740294732708979832017-09-09T07:29:00.001-05:002017-09-09T07:32:35.522-05:00Internet Trolls: A Lesson in Relevance<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Recently, my local pagan community has been experiencing some drama, as happens when you put large groups of people together. The drama surrounds a teacher, who is a mandatory reporter, reporting some alleged abuse that was (thankfully for all involved!!) proven to be false. As happens when humans are involved there has been this huge, public, backlash because some people are less than honest and have admitted they would have looked away from the allegations using 'common sense' to determine they were false, while others of us would have just reported it as we are required by law to do and let the proper authorities investigate it and determine if anything illegal had been done. To be fair, I do not believe that some of the people who admitted that they would have looked in the other direction have any idea what it means to be a court mandated reporter. I do not believe that they understand as a CMR one does not have a choice in the matter. I do not believe that they understand as a CMR reporting abuse is not an option. All that said, as a mandatory reporter myself (due to my job) I publically agreed that what the teacher did was the right thing to do.<br />
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Even as pagans, we often forget just how small we are in the grand scheme. In universal time, our three-quarters of a century lifespan isn't even a full blink of the eye. In our very human need to find significance, we will often try to extinguish the light of another if they question our status. We have come to the point of dehumanizing people and it is simply not necessary.</div>
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Aren't we supposed to be above such petty and, quite honestly, Christian things? Is it not the church who calls out anyone who questions its authority as a blasphemer? As pagans we really don't have a central authority, so we have all of these people who have read all of the 101 Craft books who think they know something. They forgot to read <i>How to Win Friends</i> and <i>The Four Agreements</i>. They forgot to read and meditate upon The Tao. They forgot to read Hawking and Kaku and they forgot to watch <i>What The Bleep. </i>In their hubris, they focused outward, on being 'somebody', and forgot to focus inward. They forgot about the wounded child or teen or young adult inside who screams and lashes out when something doesn't <i>feel good</i>. They forgot that our outward life is a direct reflection of our inward life. They forgot that because the macrocosm reflects the microcosm, anyone with eyes can see within. If your outward life is one giant pile of shit and struggle, what does that say about your inward life and why would I want to bring that energy into my life?</div>
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So, yeah, I'm totally irrelevant, but so are you and you are too blind to see it. In this great, wide multi-verse our existence is the very essence of fleeting. What legacy will you leave? Are you a brave internet troll who loves to cuss out total strangers and hope you somehow make them hurt like you are hurting? Good luck. Are you willing to say and do the hard thing because no one else will? Are you selfish and self-serving? Good luck. Do you give so much of yourself that there is nothing left for you? Do you simply do as you will regardless of the rules and when you get caught blame everyone else? Do you do nothing for fear of retaliation? Good luck with that, as well.</div>
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Relevance is a subjective thing in this world. If it gives you a sense of power to treat people the way you feel inside, then great. Do it. You can absolutely treat people the way that gives you the most power. However, when your ego puts you in a place where your belief is absolute and you think you are an authority on the relevance of another sentient being, you are simply being abusive and spreading your own, internal hurts. If you believe that it is your job to tear down another on behalf of yours or your friend's pain, then you are as much a part of the problem as the accused. Why are you not focusing your energy on helping your friend through this tough situation? Wouldn't that energy be better spent building up your friend instead of tearing someone else down?</div>
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Yes, let's talk about relevance. Let's discuss the microcosm and the macrocosm. Let's discuss how <i>everything</i> only exists by comparison.</div>
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Blessings, dear Friends, and next time you become so emotional that you want to lash out at a stranger, remember that that stranger may be a writer who has readers from all over the world. That writer just might use you and your words of pain as a lesson for others to learn from. Thank you random internet troll for telling me to fuck off after attacking me. As it turns out, I have a lovely place to fuck off to. And, no matter what the people in your life have told you, you matter. You matter inasmuch as any of us carbon meatbags matter on this plane of existence.</div>
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River Mourningstarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07487930376498733365noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-909361862629402803.post-57282062517137932792017-08-20T08:33:00.000-05:002017-08-20T08:33:11.109-05:00The Fool-hearted Notion of Radical Inclusion<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
In modern paganism, there are so many wonderful things. We have the ability to pick and choose our deities, our practices, and whether or not we are involved with the community. For all of the good things, however, we are human and our humanity often sees us accepting concepts that, in theory, are great, but in reality are dangerous or naive. Radical inclusion is one of those dangerous notions.<br />
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I have seen this scenario too many times: A person comes into the community, makes a few, well-placed friends among the elders, and within a few months the rumors start. The rumors come from various places. They come from someone who has done a background check on this person. They come from someone who has taken a story this person has told and it has been researched to be found false. The list of rumors goes on. Those around the person push the rumors away. They hush the people talking. They assure the people that this person is okay. They diminish the concerns of others by saying things like, "Don't be so judgmental," or "Everyone deserves another chance." <br />
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When I hear those phrases and others like them, what I hear is, "This person is furthering my own agenda. I know they are not good, but at this point, I don't care. They are disposable... eventually." What I also hear is, "I don't like it when I'm told I'm wrong before I want to acknowledge it." These things are a function of the ego. When one flatly refuses to look at the evidence in front of them and chooses to elevate a person who is dangerous to those around them to a place of power for fear of being 'judgy', is a, flat out, dumb decision. Radical inclusion is the concept where these poor choices come from.<br />
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No one in the pagan community would knowingly let a child molester come to their rituals with children present. (And if they do, well, they don't deserve those precious babies.) Just as no one in the pagan community would allow a known rapist into their circle. I have known, at least, one child molester who was <i>utterly appalled </i>to find out that his community wanted nothing to do with him after he betrayed them so. His clergy did an awesome job. They offered him various other opportunities to have a community (such as it was) and ritual without the children around and without those of us who would actively and openly <i>not</i> stand in circle with him. He, of course, refused, because 'how dare they judge me' and 'who are they to judge?'<br />
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No one in the pagan community would knowingly allow a rapist in their midst because s/he 'deserves' a second chance. They would not allow a rapist to stand in circle with them in 'perfect love and trust'. Why? Because, like child molesters, rapists are considered monsters. Interestingly enough, though, if one hasn't actually been caught raping or molesting, the community will, literally, always take the side of the person the rumors are about. Without question and without fail, the community will turn on people who stand up and say, 'this rumor is true because I am one of the victims'. How do I know this? I have seen it on, at least, 3 separate occasions. That's right, victim blaming. But whatever happened to including everyone right where they are? Don't those victims count? So, does that mean this radical inclusion only counts if we can use the people who are included? Or, does it mean we don't include liars and those who would stir the pot? But what about those who lie with every breath and word that comes out of their mouth?<br />
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The notion of radical inclusion really isn't that radical and it really isn't that inclusive. Radical inclusion is just another justification for our own ego. Radical inclusion openly allows us to include those into our circle whom we can use to further our own agendas. That same theory of radical inclusion gives us a false sense of superiority over those who would openly and honestly look at the people around them and refuse to participate with those who are not honest or good people. That same theory of radical inclusion gives us a sense of false equivalency when we say things like, "Oh, I don't want to judge Spiritual Practice A because I do this particular Non-Spiritual Thing that is kind of similar in looks but not the same thing at all."<br />
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Radical inclusion is fool-hearted, at best. It openly ignores the predators in our midst and gives them the forum and the power they need to predate upon those who are weaker than they are. It then gives those same predators a platform to ostracize their victims in the name of radical inclusivity. The pendulum only swings the other way when the predator is caught red-handed or enough trustworthy victims come to the fore and share their stories. Until that point, most folks are too willing to believe that the person in question couldn't <i>possibly</i> do that. Then they are <i>shocked</i> to find out the person did the thing. Then they are <i>angry</i> at the betrayal. Then, they go through the cycle again with another person.<br />
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This notion we should see the good in all people and each other is a wonderful one. I can always find the good, even in a bad person, but the notion that a tiger will change its stripes or a leopard its spots is foolish. If a community has a man <i>or</i> woman (because it happens and we all know it) making unwanted sexual advances toward people and they don't stop when asked, that person is looking for their next victim. Period. Radical inclusion says, 'maybe they are just overtly sexual and that makes insecure people uncomfortable.' Common sense says, 'maybe this person needs to hear a harsh truth that nobody wants them and to cut it out.'<br />
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People often call me a good judge of character, not because I like everyone or even see the best in everyone, but because when I see (or, feel intuitively, actually) something that set off alarm bells within me, I don't ignore that. I don't ignore it and I don't hesitate to ask others if they feel the same. My intuition has <i>never been wrong</i>. Not once. Sometimes it has taken a while for me to be proven right, but I always have been. Being a good judge of character means looking past other people's glamours. It means looking past your own desire to be included or feel important. It means looking past our own comfort zone. Once that happens, we find that being 'judgmental' is just another way that we protect ourselves from getting hurt.<br />
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Brightest Blessings, Friends!<br />
River</div>
River Mourningstarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07487930376498733365noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-909361862629402803.post-26883273134807184462017-08-05T18:25:00.000-05:002017-08-05T18:25:03.315-05:00The Hermit's Walk<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Recently, I moved again. It was probably one of the most grueling and agonizing things that I have done in my life. This is not because physical labor is hard, but because I was physically incapacitated at the beginning of the move and only had a little help. Literally, I was in a cast and not supposed to be putting weight on it, so I was completely dependent on others for almost everything... In theory. Well, I'm too much of a control freak for that. At the end of the first day, we and our two friends (who are amazing!!) got about half of what we needed to do done and in the moment, it was frustrating, but looking back, it's okay. I learned who my friends are and some other very valuable lessons. The biggest lesson is that of the Hermit.</span><br />
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</span> <span style="font-family: inherit;">According to Biddy Tarot (my personal favorite tarot website for years now), the Hermit represents soul-searching, introspection, being alone, and inner guidance. Reversed it represents isolation, loneliness, and withdrawal. As an introvert, I need a larger amount of alone time than your average person. I am prone to 'hermiting' from time to time. I rarely feel isolated or lonely anymore because of things like what happened with my move. I know that I do not 'get out' much and thereby people see me through whatever filter it is they need to see me through. As a general rule, this world does not like an introvert. I'm okay with that.</div><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"></span> <span style="font-family: inherit;">Being the Hermit is so much more than just hanging out alone and learning cool stuff so that you can pass that wisdom along when others are ready. Often, people get caught up in the alone-ness or the loneliness, but honestly, if you embody the Hermit, you'll end up feeling alone in a group of people, too. For me, the worst part of being the Hermit is being 'up the mountain'. In many decks, the Hermit is depicted traversing rocky, mountainous areas. This is part of the mystery of the Hermit.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"></span> <span style="font-family: inherit;">The Hermit stands upon his path, high in the mountains and as such, can see a larger perspective. For instance, if I am standing at sea level I am not going to see as much as the person standing at five hundred feet above sea level, just as they are not going to see as much as someone standing a thousand feet above sea level. I say this not because it is 'better'. It simply means that those who embody the Hermit have traversed further upon their own spiritual wanderings and because they are 'higher up' are further sighted than those who walk the mountains below. </span>When one is farsighted, one often gets ignored. It is easy to miss the impending avalanche until it is too late when the snow is beginning to slide underneath your feet.<br />
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The Hermit is also aloof. That detachment is another one of the Hermit's mysteries. When embodying the Hermit, one can see the good or bad up the road and in seeing it for what it is, can remain detached. When warning others of trials up the road, this detachment helps everyone to move forward. The Hermit tends to be ignored while the trials are traversed, and when completed (or not) the Hermit either gives praise or advice, when asked.<br />
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Which brings me to another of the mysteries of the Hermit, being the person who works because the work needs to be done without thought of praise. As a culture, we are conditioned to be praise/admonishment motivated. When one feels appreciated, one always works harder. However, the Hermit does not need the praises of others to keep moving forward. The Hermit does not need others to acknowledge him or his work to feel accomplished. The Hermit sets goals and works steadily toward them to achieve them without thought of others. The Hermit does not need to hear how awesome he is. He does not need to hear how much his work means to others. He does not expect others to even notice what he is doing.<br />
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Some time ago I was told that my path would lead me to be the Hermit, as though it were a bad or scary thing. Unknown to the person telling me this, I already was. What they didn't realize they were seeing was me coming back to being comfortable in that role. I am and have always been, most comfortable with people coming to me for the lessons they need and then moving on. I have always recognized that I am different. I have always known that I am not everyone's cup of tea. I have also always recognized that I need to be around people like myself and we are so, very few and far between.<br />
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The Hermit's Walk can be a scary one. It is a lonely walk, sometimes. It is, occasionally, dark and foreboding. It can lead to a great many conversations with one's self that wouldn't be had if one were with others. The Hermit carries the lantern of wisdom and shines that light for those who need it without thought of praise or, even, community. That is simply what the Hermit does.<br />
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Brightest blessings, Friends!<br />
RiverRiver Mourningstarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07487930376498733365noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-909361862629402803.post-73539580377442416702017-07-02T19:04:00.000-05:002017-07-02T19:04:09.891-05:00Conscious Destruction: Waltzing with Death<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<i>**Please disregard my excessive use of the word Fuck in this blog. I have been using it a lot lately more as a descriptive and less as an emotive.**</i><br />
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As of late, I have been blogging for the intermediate and more advanced practitioners of Craft. This blog is no exception and, as such, is probably dangerous due to the very nature of what it is. Meaning, don't try this shit at home and if you do and you blow yourself up, well, I fucking told you not to do it. (There's your fucking disclaimer, by the way.)<br />
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In recent weeks, there has been this huge fucking discussion regarding ritual animal sacrifice and the validity of the practice within my home community. Legalities aside, if done properly, it is no different than Kosher or Halal practices and the animal is given a quick death and its body feeds the family or community. I don't see any wrong doing with this. That is my view. However, I also do not believe that this practice is something that should be readily available to just anyone to witness, either. This practice is one of those mysteries that we don't think about as being a mystery. Why? Well, because in this way we are an active participant in something becoming dead, taking a life.<br />
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In today's society, unless you have grown up on a farm that slaughters its livestock or you hunt and fish, you are most likely not going to come across the opportunity to kill something larger than a spider or a snake and who cares about spiders and snakes, right? Well, maybe some of us do, but the point is, in general, we don't <i>value</i> those particular lives like we do, say, a horse or a dog or even a chicken. (And, honestly, that is a mistake we all too often make.)<br />
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Looking into the eyes of an animal as it is about to cross over, watching the realization of immanent death in its eyes and watching the trust it had in you shatter, or in the case of a wild animal, watching the fear in its eyes if you don't make a clean kill shot and you have to slit its throat in mercy, changes you on a fundamental level. Yes, I have assisted in livestock slaughter and I have gone hunting a time or two. The very primal, base energy of death changes you.<br />
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Magically speaking, this type of death energy is different than what we normally think of in our cycle of birth, life, death, and rebirth. The normal, everyday energy of the cycles is cyclical death energy. It ebbs and flows much like the cycles of the seasons. The conscious destruction of a life is Death Energy (note the capital letters there). As the practitioner, you are taking an active part in choosing when that creature realizes its fate. In that moment, you <i>become</i> death.<br />
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Now, imagine, if you will, a sacrifice ritual with a dozen active participants and another hundred onlookers. How much energy is going to be raised in a rite that large? A metric fuck tonne. What happens when that energy is released? If you have a good facilitator, it is going toward whatever magic has been spun, whatever offering has been given to the gods, but we all know that no matter how good the facilitator is, some of that energy isn't released.<br />
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Everything that was touched by that energy absorbs it, at least some of it. Ritual jewelry, wedding bands, watches, clothing, earrings, body jewelry. <i>All of it</i> will absorb that energy. This doesn't include the energy that is absorbed into the walls of buildings or the ground, trees, grass, chairs, tents, picnic tables, and any other physical <i>thing</i> you might have with or on you. All of those large festival-type rituals have a burst bubble type of action when the energy is released. If it is directed upward (as it should be), little droplets of the energy are going to fall down to the earth like rain because it didn't exactly adhere to the big swell or ball of energy thrown upward. The number of people not letting go of the energy can and does contribute to this.<br />
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I'm sure at this point, you're thinking, "Well, ok. So, let's just throw some salt at it or smudge it and make it wonderful, happy energy." Except that doesn't work with Death Energy. That energy is a base energy. It is not changed or transmuted because <i>that's what it is at its very core, </i>much like pure elements in chemistry. One atom of Death Energy is Death Energy just as one atom of gold is gold. It is not the type of energy that you smudge away with sage. There is no 'raising its vibration' to change it from what it is. Conscious Destruction will never be anything other than that.<br />
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Okay, well, since Death Energy doesn't change, what <i>does</i> it do? Glad you asked. Death Energy kills things. Plain and simple. Death Energy looks like a blessing in disguise or a curse. This kind of energy often strips away titles. It strips away labels. It strips away all of the outside 'stuff' that we <i>think</i> gives life meaning. We find ourselves looking around us and wondering where all of the people went who make us feel important. We look in the mirror and wonder why people no longer tell us we are beautiful. We wonder why, suddenly, no one wants to hear our words or why, suddenly, we stumble over the strings of our guitar or keys of our piano. Death Energy forces us to look at ourselves, naked and vulnerable with no filters and to find worth in <i>that</i>.<br />
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Not only does this energy kill things, but it calls to those who need it. It calls to those who are weak, sick, or desperate. It sings gloriously to the lonely and the scared. This energy embodies the essence of Shadow Work. One must know where one is weak to shed that weakness. One must know why one is lonely to make peace with it. In discovering our weaknesses, we can turn them into strengths if we but work with them.<br />
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What about those who <i>aren't</i> ready to deal with Death Energy? What about those who think this is all a load a hooey and salt and sage and sandalwood, et cetera. Well, those are the people I worry about blowing up themselves or others. Those are the people who rail against the world when something doesn't go their way. Those are the people who like to blame everyone and everything around them for their own life going to pot. Those are the people who run up against the wall every time they get just a molecule of Death Energy and stagnate for months or even years. Those are the people constantly looking backward at what was because 'things were better'. Those people don't see the blessings death brings. Those people are not mature enough to recognize the energy for what it is, either. Thankfully, because of the basic and primal nature of that energy, it recognizes the difference between the novice and the master. It gives the novice no more than he can handle while meting out a harsher lesson for the master who should have known better.<br />
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As pagans, our lives are always more than simply observing the seasons, the sky, the creatures. There are times when we are allowed to play an active part in the creation or destruction within those cycles. When we choose to consciously destroy life, we take a waltz with death. While on that waltz, we look into the hooded face of the grim reaper. Sometimes we see the gaping maw of the abyss as that death consumes us. Sometimes we see the gaping maw of the abyss as that death consumes us and then explodes into a big bang of the creation of a new cosmos.<br />
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Death is not a mystery that most are ready to explore. They are not ready to know what it is like to <i>become</i> death. This is a mystery that many stumble upon without realizing just how much change happens because of it. This is a mystery that, if begged for, the gods don't often deny. It then becomes a case of : Be careful what you wish for. You just might get it.<br />
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Regards,<br />
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(Oh, and if you have managed to read this far, I honestly don't care what your opinions on animal sacrifice are, so please don't bother commenting on the morality of it. I believe that is a choice that we make as we walk our individual paths and nothing you can say will change my mind on that. Also, no, I do not practice it in my path. However, if you have commentary on your experience with this type of energy, please, feel free to expand all of our knowledge with your wisdom, as it is always welcome.)<br />
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**Also, I'd like to add that I know of only one person besides myself who works so closely with this kind of energy. In fact, <i>she</i> is the one whom I go to when I have lessons that I need to work on with this energy or when I know that I am missing something. If, like me, you are that kind of weirdo, rest assured that you are not alone and there are those of us who quite enjoy raucous conversations about these things.**</div>
River Mourningstarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07487930376498733365noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-909361862629402803.post-46077361169215021632017-06-25T13:16:00.001-05:002017-06-25T13:16:32.794-05:00Practical Paganism: Psychic Attack<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
If I had to guess, there is a metric fuck tonne of literature out there on psychic attack. I'm sure that I have even written on it a time or two through the years. However, this seems like a good time to do a guide on the different types of psychic attack as well as how to combat them in practical ways.<br />
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First, we must describe what a psychic attack is. A psychic attack can be defined as negativity sent toward a person, whether conscious or unconscious, with the intent to do harm. This includes both general negative juju as well as astral entities sent with the instructions to be bothersome. So, what can be done about it? Glad you asked!<br />
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Most suspected psychic attacks just simply <i>aren't</i> psychic attacks. What I mean by this is that another person isn't sending the negative juju, we are attracting it. Yes, it happens. Yes, it happens more often than we want to admit. Energy follows the path of least resistance. <i>All energy.</i> From a lightening bolt to an arc welder to a television, energy only wants to complete the circuit and do what it is meant to do. Psychic energy does the same thing. If you have a bad day and your thoughts turn to the negative, what happens? Things kind of snowball. When you go to bed, you reset and you get up the next day maybe feeling better, maybe not.<br />
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As human beings, we don't want to hear that we are the cause of our own harm, but we oftentimes are. Those negative thoughts tend toward lowering our vibration and allowing more negative (or maybe more appropriately, low vibration) energy in, which in turn, affects us and it becomes a self-perpetuating cycle.<br />
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What happens, then, if a psychic attack <i>is</i> just that? What can a person do to combat such an attack? Most books and websites out there make many of the same basic suggestions: smudging with sage, black stones (usually black obsidian and black tourmaline) shielding, bathing yourself in a white, loving light via visualization, etc. These things are suggested because they work. They are suggested often for the same reason. That said, what happens if you do these first line things and they don't work? Well, they aren't basic, first line things for nothing, right?<br />
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If basic stones, shielding, and smudging don't work, I like to do a combination of basic things next. That may sound silly, but sometimes layering works. What do I mean by layering? I mean using multiple artifacts for multiple purposes. For example: Smudging and placing a combination of black stones near any opening to my physical space. Maybe use tumbled hematite to reflect the energy back (tumbled hematite <i>is</i> shiny and can be used as a mirror) or raw hematite to absorb and ground the negativity. Then, use obsidian to 'cut' the energy. It is, after all, volcanic glass.<br />
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After that, a protection and banishing oil using salt, black pepper, cinnamon, bay, rosemary, and cayenne pepper can be made. The salt creates a boundary. The black pepper (again) 'cuts' the energy that might get past the stones. Cinnamon and cayenne pepper are hot and will burn (both literally and figuratively). Bay and Rosemary are both for protection. <b>**A word of caution when using this oil. Cayenne and black pepper will burn the fuck out of your mucous membranes if you don't wash your hands thoroughly after using it!!!!!** </b>Mix it as you would any oil, and anoint your doors and windows with it. I would not suggest using this mix on yourself, as again, the peppers and cinnamon can burn your skin.<br />
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Once these things are done, wait and see. If things get better, you have protected yourself. If things don't get better, there are other things to be done that are not quite so basic.<br />
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One, not quite so basic thing that can be done is the Lesser Banishing Ritual of the Pentagram. If you haven't ever done it or don't know what it is, you can find<a href="https://youtu.be/63UJFKEPwW8"> this</a> (particularly good) instructional on YouTube. The LBRP is an excellent tool for banishing all negativity. Yes, it does use the archangels, but this is from the Golden Dawn, so it's expected.<br />
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Another not so basic tool is the mirror. I say not so basic because mirrors <i>can</i> be broken (as can hematite, from above!!) Of course, one can not simply stick a mirror on the wall and call it good. It needs to be cleansed and charged for its purpose before being placed mirror side <i>out</i>. That's right. You want to see the <i>back</i> of the mirror. These must also be cleansed and charged every so often because they <i>are</i> magical tools in this instance.<br />
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A third not so basic exercise is to look your attacker in the eye and tell him/her you know what they are doing and it isn't working. This is, probably, one of the more dangerous things you can do. It is dangerous because if your will falters for even a moment, your attacker might just know it and can use it against you. It is also dangerous because it is, in essence, psychological warfare.<br />
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What I mean by this is that you have to use all of your own confidence and charm when confronting your attacker. How many of us can muster <i>that</i> up? Not many. It takes courage, confidence, and most of all, knowing ones self. You <i>absolutely</i> <i>must</i> be confident in your self, your will, and your magic for this to work in <i>any</i> capacity. The moment a doubt enters your mind, you have defeated yourself. So, this particular approach isn't for everyone.<br />
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However, if you <i>want</i> to try it and you succeed, then your attacker will be caught off guard by a few things. First, said attacker will be caught off guard by how bold you are. Your bravado (false or otherwise) will let said attacker know that you are not what you seem to be. Secondly, if done right, your bravado will plant a seed of doubt in your attackers mind. <i>This</i> is the reaction you want. You want your attacker to second guess him- or herself. Finally, if this approach works, anything you say after calling out your attacker will plant a seed that you are not to be trifled with.<br />
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If calling your attacker out isn't your style, there are other not so basic exercises you can use. I will reiterate, these may not be palatable to some as they are Craft and, as such, may fall within the realm of gray or black magics. (Oh, yes, yes she did!!) And, as we all know, the Universe does not like a vacuum, so what we put out always comes back to us. Before moving on, I ask that we all be aware of these things.<br />
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If you're still reading, good. The next exercise that can be done has two different meanings. The fith-fath. In the Irish and Scots Gaelic, a fith-fath is a charm, often spoken in rhyme. It is used to obscure a person from the site of another. We often hear children use fith-faths.<br />
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"I'm rubber. You're glue. Whatever you say bounces off of me and sticks on to you."<br />
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Oh, you've heard that one before? It's a bit of sound defensive magic, I think.<br />
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A fith-fath is also the making of a poppet. To create a fith-fath there is a whole ritual that goes with it that I will not get into here, but must life <i>must be</i> breathed into it. If you are interested in learning more about fith-fathing, please feel free to research. These can be used for bindings and other, similar, forms of magic.<br />
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A fetch is similar to a fith-fath. Again, depending on your information source, your fetch is created in the physical (like a poppet) with a ritual and sent to do your work to be undone when the task is complete. A fetch can also be an astral entity, similar to an elemental but created by you in the astral realms, sent to do your work and cause change or create havoc in the physical. Either way, once the work is done, it must be undone.<br />
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And finally, the Witch's Bottle. Oh a great many things have been written on a witch's bottle, but it's because <i>they work</i>. You can find recipes for them online, so I won't go into the mechanics of constructing them. I will, however, discuss the magical actions that having one creates. First, they are an excellent all around protection. However, they protect against <i>all</i> negativity indiscriminately. What does that mean? Well, it means that if you have one and you and your best friend have a big fight and said best friend spends the next 3 days (attacking your psychically) and wishing you dead, then said friend dies horrifically and unexpectedly, it could have been the bottle protecting you. Yes, I have seen something similar happen. One does not need to aim the bottle at a specific person. The inherent magic in the bottle (your intent and its sole purpose) is a very potent passive magic.<br />
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The other side to a witch's bottle is that particularly skilled practitioners can find a way to break them, therefore breaking the magic. If it is buried, they can find them and dig them up and then they have something of yours to use in magic against <i>you</i>.<br />
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All forms of magic, defensive and offensive, carry risks and benefits. Not all suspected psychic attacks are actually psychic attacks. As always, it is important to wield your magic with responsibility. It is important to weigh the costs and benefits of such magics. Protecting ones self and family from psychic attack is important, but also striving to do the right thing is, too. Always be practical in your workings and always be aware of how they can affect yourself and those around you.<br />
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Until next time, brightest blessings, Friends.<br />
River Mourningstar<br />
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River Mourningstarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07487930376498733365noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-909361862629402803.post-69531758554507784252017-05-21T10:08:00.000-05:002017-05-21T10:08:19.751-05:00Doing What Feels Good in Your Spiritual Practice<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Greetings Dear Readers! It has been a great many months and a great many changes since I last stopped by. While I won't say that mundane life has taken over, I will say that it hasn't been all flowers and unicorns with rainbows shooting out of their asses. Life has been... life: some of it joyous and some of it not-so-much, but I have grown. I have grown as a person and I have grown in spirit. Which brings me to the subject at hand, a phrase that has always annoyed me when it is said in spiritual conversations: Do what feels good.<br />
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When I hear those in the position of elder or teacher tell seekers to 'do what feels good' it annoys me to my very core. Why? Well, do we tell toddlers to 'do what feels good' regarding playing with other children? Do we tell our tweens and teens to 'do what feels good' when they want to go out and spend time in the mixed company of friends? Do we compassionately look upon our addict friends who are struggling and tell <i>them</i> to 'do what feels good?' No? To all of these? Then why would we tell spiritual toddlers, tweens, teens or even, addicts this? The phrase 'do what feels good' is one of two things: a misnomer or bad advice. Here's why.<br />
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First, doing what feels good is much different than following one's instincts or spirit guides or gods. Why? Well, most people new to the Craft have to learn patience. They have to learn to be still and quiet. They have to learn to slow their mundane 'monkey mind' and move past it to actually focus. Focus is what we look for during meditation. It is how we learn to listen properly.<br />
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Doing what feels good tends toward being the path of least resistance. In most instances, this is not a bad thing (and therefore, is not always bad advice) but true meditation takes, literally, years of practice. When I say 'literally', I mean a long fucking time. I mean daily practice working up from 5-10 seconds at a time (because that's all you get in the beginning if you're lucky) to 15-30 minutes or more. This kind of devotion to a practice is not easy and it does not feel good. <br />
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Typically, we do not teach true meditation first. We may instruct seekers on how this is done and tell them to practice on their own, but we teach them other skills to go along with this because true meditation is tough, even for more advanced practitioners. Oh, we tell people to meditate, but what we really mean is for them to learn to focus, relax, and maybe even visualize. Most of those things, in time, lead to true meditation, but none of it is attained by doing what 'feels good.'<br />
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Secondly, what 'feels good' to me probably isn't going to be as good for me spiritually as I want it to be. For instance, it 'feels good' to put people in their place with the truth. Got a co-worker or friend who likes to blame the world for their problems when you can clearly see where their actions <i>or</i> inaction has caused the troubles? Don't you just want to look at them and remind them that only they can fix their situation? Yes, we all do. However, honesty and brutal honesty are two different beasts. One can lead said person around until they come to the conclusion (and feel good about it) or one can brutally hack away at said person's argument (which is, honestly, my favorite because it <i>quickly</i> gets to the heart of the matter) and show them the naked truth. I may be doing what 'feels good' to me, but that brutal honesty feels pretty bad to the other person. Haven't we all been that other person? Yes, we have.<br />
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Third, and something you don't hear a whole lot about these days, it is almost a guarantee that if it 'feels good', then you can bet the ego is behind it. The ego <i>likes</i> easy things. It <i>likes</i> to be right, to be stroked, to be listened to. It <i>likes</i> to 'do what feels good.' The ego hears 'do what feels good' and smiles. It says, 'meditation is hard.' It says, 'you don't have to meditate to be adept.' It says, 'you can make it up as you go and people will believe you.' The ego doesn't want us to grow beyond it. The ego doesn't want us to see past what it can show us. The ego wants us to live within our basest desires. The ego <i>likes</i> it when we 'do what feels good.'<br />
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All of this brings me to my final point in the 'do what feels good' talk. As modern neo-pagan practitioners, we have a litany of information out there. We want to believe that everything is fluid and nothing is set in stone, but that simply is not true. (The truth is the truth whether we believe in it or not, remember that.)<br />
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There are certain laws that we must live by. (Here, I bet you are challenging this statement in your mind, aren't you?) We must live by the laws of physics. We must even live by the ones we haven't discovered yet. (Gravity, anyone? XD) Spiritually, we must do the same thing. The 7 Universal Laws are a good place to start. It doesn't matter your path, they are universal laws for a reason.<br />
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Other laws that aren't necessarily laws, per se, reside in Gardner's 8 Paths to Power and refer to the cost of magic and magical practices. Learning to astral travel via meditation costs a whole lot less, energetically speaking, than learning to astral travel via drugs, sex, or pain. Drugs, sex, or pain may be the path that 'feels good' and it may be 'quicker' option, but the cost will <i>always</i> be greater. There is no bartering. There is no sharing that cost. There is no passing that cost on. These costs go beyond Wicca, as well. Just because it is Gardner who made them known, does not mean that non-Wiccan's are immune.<br />
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Remember, the next time you (or I or any of us) are in a position where a seeker asks for advice or a 'how to', don't just give them a generic 'do what feels good.' Doing what feels good is leading to a generation of spiritually handicapped individuals. Telling a seeker to 'do what feels good' could ultimately lead to that seeker being spiritually maimed or killed. Advising a seeker to 'do what feels good' could lead them down the road to animal or human sacrifice (on <i>your</i> advice) and put blood on your hands. Advising someone to 'do what feels good' could lead them to hooking up with 17 different people on Tindr and getting a disease. (Guess who gets to reap the energetic consequences of that, yup, you, for giving really bad advice.)<br />
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Next time, instead of telling a seeker to 'do what feels good', think about the potential consequences of 'feeling good' and, instead, say what you actually mean, unless you actually mean 'do whatever makes you feel good.' However, remember that is a double-edged sword and no matter what happens, you are ultimately going to be affected by the decision that seeker makes due to your words of wisdom. Words have power, right? It's why when we put them together they call it 'spelling'.<br />
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Brightest Blessings,<br />
River Mourningstar</div>
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