This blog is an observation and my own perspective on Psychic Vampires. Sadly, I have dealt with them over and over again throughout my short life and many of them exhibit the same behaviors regardless of gender, demographic, or even elevation within the Craft or Craft community. And, please remember, I am not an authority on anything. I might even be wrong about this!
Psychic vampires appear, for all intents and purposes, to be selfish people. Does it mean all people who appear selfish are vampires? No. Does it mean all vampires appear this way? Of course not!
Psychic vampires want a reaction. They want the people around them to react a certain way, typically in a negative fashion. These people feed on fear, pity, anger, and all manner of negativity. When they aren't given that, they will typically throw a fit in an effort to get it.
When we, as a community, feed these people our reactions, we are handing them our own, personal power and why would we do that when we are trying to be light bearers to the world.
An example in how to not feed a vampire from my own life surrounds a woman. From the moment I met her, I knew that there was something 'not right' about her. She's one of those people who has to be in charge and has to be in the spotlight and when she isn't, she's stirring the pot. She wants people to react negatively to her. She thrives on it.
Said woman doesn't know how to react when shown kindness. I have, personally, seen her frown at being welcomed into a group. It's like picking up an aggressive rooster and petting it. They are thrown off guard by the kindness and, in the case of the rooster anyway, tend to wander off dazed wondering what just happened.
The phrase 'kill them with kindness' must have been thought up directly in regards to psychic vampires. When one is kind to them and refuses to react negatively, these people tend to move on because they simply can not process the positivity.
So, when you see someone who constantly feeds off of negativity and drama, it's a possibility that they could be a vampire of some kind. There are many other ways of identifying a vampire, but I have found that this is one of the primary ones (at least for me). Be kind, even if that kindness means gritting your teeth, smiling, and walking the other way before your head explodes in frustration. There's no reason to give someone your personal energy if they aren't doing anything constructive with it. Why help spread negativity in an already mostly negative world?
Be kind to each other my friends and Brightest Blessings!